Mental breakdown
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Hang in there. You have a roof over your head, a small baby that needs you and it’s totally ok to feel the way you do. Postpartum is a real mentally and physically exhausting thing. Keep in touch with loved ones and FaceTime as often as possible. Little by little you’ll adjust to your new norm even though it probably won’t get easier but you just learn to cope and adjust.
Sounds like you have postpartum depression. I would talk to your gp about it. But some tips would be, see if there is a mothers group in the area, go to playgroup and/or swimming lessons with your baby. Maybe check out the local community centre and see what other groups they might be running.
On the Same boat ! My son is 3, so school is just around the corner along with my career and a chance for daily adult conversation. I’d stick it out because creating a family is more important to me, but you got this. And remember it’s just a phase 🖤
Talk to your primary care physician or go on headway and seek out a therapist/psychiatrist asap. It’ll be so helpful!
How old is your baby? It sounds like you had alot of support and feel isolated. Moving is hard but postpartum can amplify alot of these things. Do you feel this way all the time or is some days worse than others?
Wait until ur baby is 1yr. Ull start to feel more urself and maybe make some friends
I feel better when I set up dates with moms on Peanut. Better than being alone with the babies all day. Otherwise, I get super depressed and tired. You can do it! Also, ask your mom or your fam to come stay for a week and cheer you up.
Check out your nearest library for all sorts of free events for yourself and your LO. That's the only place I actually found other mom friends.
I would definitely talk to a therapist as yes, these feelings could be amplified by post partum depression, however, raising a kid truly does take a village and we shouldnt normalize doing this tough job alone or that us moms now have to do this in a more isolated way than past generations. You cant be a good mom if you also dont take care of your mental health and your needs.
Can you work part time in this new town and put bub in daycare a few days a week?
Ive been here for almost 2 years now, not sure if it’s postpartum depression. I’ve tried making friends at the park and splash pads that they have here but it’s like no one wants to make new friends. My husband also doesn’t seem to understand how I feel. He somewhat tries to make me feel better but he could do better and I think that would make me feel better. I’m just so full of emotions.
It may be worthwhile to consider a part time job, volunteer work, or maybe joining a friend's app like meetup or bumble. Also if you are able to set up babysitting for date nights with your husband that could maybe alleviate some of the loneliness (or even do them at home)
PPD doesn't have a time frame and can go unnoticed very easily. I had it for 3 years in the midst of COVID. It was absolutely horrible. Definitely talk to a professional, even your pediatrician. Your husband can't understand but can only try his best. I was extremely close to my huge extended family till I got pregnant and my sister pushed me. I don't even go to family events because of her. Now I regret making my husband move here from Canada so I can stay close to them. But I've made a new life without toxic relationships. My daughter is my everything.
OP, I suggest you take your baby and travel. Whether that is in-state or out of the country. Just go. See the world, people watch at cafes, strike up conversations at museums,art galleries, don’t anchor yourself down when the world is vast. Not saying to move somewhere permanently but set a goal to travel more or go to cafes more. Sometimes all you need is fresh air in a new place and learn a new hobby/skill and some sun. ☀️ also watch your dietary habits, sometimes it can alter our thinking. All the best to you.
idk if your religious but find yourself a church in the area and see if they have a women’s group or even daycare you can use that time for yourself 🥹 please feel free to message me 😭 i can be a safe space being a stay at home mom is so hard i have 3 kids 4,2,7 i went back to school just to not be cooped up in the house with the kids