What would you prefer in a partner?

I wanted to do a poll but It's not enough room for me to explain what I want to know. Would you ladies rather have A) a man who makes bank and would rather hire you any help you needed as a SAHM and manager of the household and you never had to worry about anything? But he doesn't help you. He thinks him hiring you help is him helping. He would rather not be involved with his kids and this makes you sad because you wish he would be a family man. OR B) a man who helps you but doesn't make that much and you may struggle a bit with money and help and your mental health will suffer because you are not able to manage the self care due to having to work hardcore as a mom and maybe a working mom since ur man doesn't make enough so u have to work too but at least he helps you and is involved as a dad. So this is for you to choose this hypothetical, not your own situation. Please choose one of the above choices.

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So I have a partner who makes decent money. I am a SAHM and I wish he was more nurturing and hands on with our child. He has no patience and misses his “freedom” He cooks and cleans and I’m to keep the tiny human alive and happy. That said, my husband wants intimacy from me and I’m too tired and hate how nasty he is towards our child that I have zero interest in him. I count my blessings I don’t have to work but I do wish I had help once in awhile with diapers and feedings

My partner is an equal parent. I'm stay at home, while they work, but they are completely involved in our child's life and help with him and the housework. I wouldn't have had kids with someone who wasn't tbh.

I will choose an involved husband and father always. If he has your back and you can depend on him, there are lots of creative ways to find time to do self care, etc. Also personally I will always want to work.

I’m pretty close to the second paragraph and tbh next time I have a baby it will only be if all the needed help can be afforded. I’m talking chef, maid, assistant, therapist, and childcare when needed. At the very least full daily meal service, twice weekly cleaning lady, and part time nanny 🤣

I have a very involved partner and wouldn't have it any other way. We're not rich but we can afford for me to stay home and get daycare too.

2nd choice.

@Susie hey does he pay for daycare or do u?

I don't want daycare atm but he would and will eventually pay for it so I can start my own business

I would want #2

B everyday. The kids deserve to feel loved by both parents more than they need the latest toy/tech.

B all day We are working towards getting some paid help with things but my husband is so hands on with the kids.

I have closer to A (he’s involved but not as much as I’d like, and he thinks hiring help is the same as him helping). Honestly I wished he was more like B.

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