Going out - will it get easier??

My baby is 5 mo. Ever since he hit 4 mo, going out to a cafe or to meet up with anyone has been really challenging. I try to do everything right: pump a load of milk so he's got loads of food, make sure he's had a good nap, bring a load of engaging toys with me, a carrier to settle him and make sure I vary his position a lot. He really just hates being in this kind of environment. I met up with a friend today just to talk and he had about 4 total meltdowns. I saw my in laws on the weekend for lunch and they were all tutting at me because he was so unsettled. A woman on the table next to me today looked at me like I was a crappy mum. I have a really close bond with him and he's very high maintenance but much happier outside or at home. It's been not so bad during the summer but now the weather is worse... It's getting to the point where I'm avoiding going anywhere and feel very stressed when I have to go to things. Anyone finding similar??
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Could he just be a bit overstimulated? I have found my little girl is a lot more stroppy now at 5 months and being in these environments seem to tire her out so much. That being said it’s at home that I find she gets bored more easily. They aren’t afraid to tell you they don’t like something even though they can’t speak! X

@Marissa Yes, that's definitely possible and I must add, I'm not upset with him at all, I love him so much. I know it's all really new and really tough for them but you just look at other mums whose babies are quite chilled and think, god it would just be nice to finish a cup of tea without being petrified he's going to lose his mind. It's a relief I'm not the only one whose baby has become a little stroppier... I suppose they are all just developing their personalities! x

We push her on a stroller anytime we go anywhere besides church. It works for us!

@Brooke He absolutely loves being in the stroller for walks (I walk for hours with him every day) but he won't sit in it if we stop somewhere unfortunately x

Maybe meeting up with lots of people make him nervous.

And... Don't get discouraged by what other people tell you or how they judge you. They don't know what you are going through. Moms always give the best for their babies. Your boy definitely knows that and he loves you. That's all matters.

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