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You need to be free! You need a bike with a trailer, a second car, or your husband to drop you off somewhere in the mornings a few days a week!
I felt this today. FR! Sending love your way 💕
I have a car but don’t go out in it everyday. I walk most days round the park, or there’s a children’s centre near by I can walk to. Is there nowhere locally for nice walks or coffee shops etc?
Get that stroller and go walking girl don’t limit yourself to the house. Do some DIY projects make crafts (paint on toddlers hand put it on a pumpkin) just keep busy and when your partner is home walk around target go to a book store do something for you !
I feel this too. Being a toddler stay at home mom is hard, it’s like a job that is literally 24/7. I’ve learned if I don’t ask for breaks I won’t get them. Ask the people in your life for help if you truly need it. They say it takes a village which honestly is a dumb cliché but it does take more than one person. Talking to your partner about your problems is the only real way to fix them (especially sexual). Our solution to having a cosleeping toddler and wanting alone time is waiting til he’s asleep (obviously not in the bed with us) or putting on a show he likes in the other room. There’s times he knocks on the door or calls us or even cries but we know he’s safe so we finish our business before tending to him.
You've gotta get out of the house once day. You're limiting yourself. The car isn't the limit. Get a stroller. Go to the park and talk to other moms.
I have a 10 week old and I've flown to my family for a 10 day visit. I get out daily for walks since 1 week pp.
@Amanda the problem with this is that we don’t live in the best area to where I feel safe enough to go out by myself and my daughter. And the 2 parks in our area are always most of the time empty. We do go outside in the front or backyard and we have multiple things to do outside
Hey mama, you are not alone. I know this doesn’t help much, but literally, you are not alone. Try to see that little one as your blessing, as your friend. Talk to the kid, create worlds, create fancy routines around the house. Wake up, put the most beautiful dress that you have, put make up on, dress up your baby, make yourself a tea or a coffee , and sit next to the window and make that moment magic for yourself and the baby. Get the best from the struggle and the challenges you are having, the better is yet to come. Sometimes not the situation itself, as is our state of mind and soul. I became a mom in the middle of the pandemic, and my anxiety was through the roof, but I made it through, by creating a routine that helped me a lot. Get in touch with moms around your area and do yoga, paint, join a book club. :)
Do you live in a town with a bus?
I’m in a very similar situation. My baby is 14 months old and we only have one car. My husband works 2 jobs and goes to school so we basically never see him. We live paycheck to paycheck as well so even if I did get to go out it’s not like I get to actually DO anything. If you’re able I think therapy would be a good option. And maybe set up something with your husband where you get to go out once a week by yourself and just exist as your own person
Totally feeling like this today 😞 yeah it's harder some days than others. What helps me sometimes is the libraries. There's free toddler lego sessions, reading sessions etc. you can always msg me ❤️
I am also a first time SAHM it’s very very stressful and lonely ! You need a routine it was the only thing that saved me