Anyone would think they put that picture up to upset you and sounds like the family are trying to remind you of his ex which is just pathetic because you’re not clearly not going anywhere when your married with 3 children. Glad your husband was supportive
I think the picture thing is odd. Yet the fact her mom had a tea with her is not unappropriate. They certainly shared moment during those 8 years and have a kind of attachment. You can't control the relationship she have the right or not to have. My partner had a 10 years relationship before me. No kids. I don't know if my in laws are in touch with her but I wouldn't mind if they had. I also had relationship before my husband and I remember my mom and sister being sad when I broke up because they likes my ex. They also love my husband. I would figure out your insecurity about the ex. And of course I think the s'il having a pic with her on the fridge very inconsiderate... Sorry for that. I get it hurts your feelings.
I think your husbands family having any contact with an ex of his is inappropriate. Or to even have anything of hers around- including photos. Some families are super pathetic and don’t know boundaries. And some people honestly don’t know how to build quality relationships of their own so they hold onto dynamics that should’ve been long gone. I am glad your hubby stood by your side. You have no insecurity about an ex so please don’t go being harsh on yourself. Most rational healthy people would be uncomfortable about an ex being around this long into a relationship.
I should add though that given how isolated both those incidents were, they might have been sincerely not directed to hurt you. But they definitely should be more thoughtful. These kinda mistakes leave a bad taste for a loooooong time.
@Aurélie I would understand that except my husband has been very 100% strict about my family having any contact with my ex. Or even guys I was close to having a relationship with 😂. And my family has respected that always
I think it's a very controlling and unappropriate thing to require from your husband to your family. I don't think anyone is entitled to control their relationship with others even if they don't like it. It's a him problem... He should manage his own insecurity. Unless you had a violent boyfriend or someone that deeply hurt you, I don't see any reason for your family not to ne in touch with your exes (if they want to).
Your not they are tripping . I’m sorry girl .