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@Sarah 12 almost 13.
It sounds like you may need to go see a therapist to figure out where your lack of trust and anxiety are coming from it doesn't sound like you need medication though just working through some pre-existing trauma possibly or if you don't have pre-existing trauma learn mechanisms to trust but I would suggest therapy
It's not trust. It's called intrusive thoughts. It's very destructive. Learn to identify it and stop yourself from thinking that way. Practice mindfulness and self reflect on at what point in that thought process could you have been more loving toward him and stopped all the hateful thinking and then practice it the next time it happens. There's nothing wrong with you. These are skills you develop with age.
@Cindy I always thought it was a trust issue. I count my money when it comes out of the ATM. Thank you for this I’ll look into it for sure
I don't think this is a you-problem. I don't trust any of that either. Your husband could have messaged you that he had a flat. (I'm glad that one worked out ok!) If you are the co-executor of your dad's will, he should be explicit about what his wishes are, including what you're receiving. Your husband is not buying a car for your son to drive 3 years from now. Don't let these men gaslight you. Otherwise kind and good people can get real shady around transferring assets. Quite frankly, I'm guessing you've had at least one or two big "surprises" in your life from your dad and maybe your son's father... If someone is trying to convince you to be more trusting, I'd be suspicious. A little transparency on their part would go a long way.
I agree with the above its intrusive thoughts, which can be really damaging. I’d look into CBT to get it under control/ find some coping strategies x
I’m the same but I have ocd it just changes themes whenever it wants sometimes about my relationship sometimes about me as a mother all sorts it’s hard to keep up with
You get into tricky territory if you call it trust. Without trust, there's no viable relationship. (Even if you have previous trauma, those past events are not happening in the present). That is how intrusive thoughts can destroy your life. I think what you experienced is called catatrophizing which is a type of cognitive distortion.
I recommend this website which really helped me. https://iveronicawalsh.wordpress.com/chronological-best-ordering-of-posts-so-you-have-a-beginning-a-middle-and-an-end/
It depends what it is. With my partner i trust him completely! If he didn't answer his phone or was late back, I'd never assume he was doing something he shouldn't, I'd just assume he was busy or had to go somewhere after work (like the shop). However, I don't always trust call centre or sales people, as I know the tactics 😅
how old is your son?