So fed up with my husband

He’s got this mania about me taking our son out every day. He constantly bullies me to take him out. His idea is that I should go on walks with him every day and take him for activities all day. Our son is 2 years old, I’m not an extremely outgoing person, but that doesn’t mean I’m at home all the time and keeping him locked up at home. I feel most comfortable to go out about 3 times a week and then stay in the following day. I don’t understand why that would be a problem?? Our son can play safely in our garden and in the house as well and we do activities around the house while I can get some stuff done. My husband makes it look like I am unhealthy, constantly compares me to other mums he sees, and every single day makes comments. “Why don’t you take him there? Why don’t you drive? Other mums drive and I see them all the time going to town with their cars and their pushchairs” It seems to me he is just bothered that I don’t seem to be busy and sporty? I know many mums who love being out all day because they’re finding it hard to entertain the children at home. I don’t! My son is actually really good at occupying himself. I didn’t spend my childhood in parks and soft play every day either. Neither did my husband, who was probably still hanging on his mummy’s tits when he was two or playing in the mud in their garden. I just don’t get his obsession and we argue about this all the time. Is there anyone who can relate?

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Does he work from home ? It sounds like he’s spending too much time at home and needs to go out to get some work done so you can do what you need to do at home with your boy x You need need to make a plan with him that works for you both it’s not his way or the high way compromise is key in relationships and he has to meet you half way

You know the family of those always occupied children get at 2,3,4,5,6 and 7? Kids chat can't independently play, who can't play on their own, that always needs an adult doing something with them. PS I couldn't walk for 9 months after my birth (full recovery was 18m) no just popping out for me or driving and you know what? My son is a happy little boy! He independently plays and others get really jealous! It's absolutely a balance, quiet time is absolutely essential for brain development as much as stimulation is. And it's ok for children to learn to be bored and to come up with stuff with their imagination and not just parents deciding. You're doing great! It sounds like you have a husband problem rather than a parenting one.

I think fresh air every day even for a short time is really important, but if you have a garden and a good playspace at home there’s no need to be somewhere else every day! It will cost you just going out so it will definitely save money too. Tell him to look after him for two weeks straight before he judges.

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