Visitors waiting outside the delivery room?
Show your support
Not at all! With my first we weren’t allowed to have visitors just birthing partners but I’ve been really clear for this one that we’re not having any visitors to the hospital. My mum wasn’t impressed but also understands (or at least will respect my wishes 😂)
I definitely don’t think you’re being unreasonable and you really don’t know how you’re going to feel. I set expectations with everyone we didn’t want to see anyone for the first week and we were going to settle as a new family of 3. After the baby arrived, we were so excited and had guests the next day. I was quite happy to see everyone and get it over and done with (sounds bad) so we could just be together as 3. So things can change but I’d rather set low expectations for everyone and change my mind again. We’re now pregnant with baby number 2 and I’m doing the same as you really don’t know how you’re going to feel.
Not at all. It would add so much stress for me personally. My mom visited 2 days after I was home, I said no hospital visitors. I ended up having a planned c section and I didn’t even tell anyone the time I was having my baby (my partner was with me) only that it was that day as to not add pressure after going through something so life changing! Also wanted the little bubble and didn’t want to have to speak to others until I was ready and knew all was okay.
Helll no I wouldn’t have that either, I have even said we are waiting a while after this one is born. With my first people were around when he was 1 weeks old (only out of hospital 1 day) and it killed me off. You take your time and you tell people when you are ready x
Absolutely not! It's your journey, not hers and it's not her right or entitlement to be there! You need to ask her to respect your boundaries and wishes.
Not at all! I made a mistake of saying my mum could be one of my birthing partners (as well as my husband), wish I never said it 🤦🏻♀️ she’ll be so upset if I say I’ve changed my mind, and if I go into labour and have the baby without letting her know it’ll be an even bigger drama
Just tell her that you only get a birthing partner and that’s your partner. Since Covid, you can’t really have waves of visitors or people waiting around the wards. Visiting hours are stricter too. We were alone and it was magical, to me that’s the moment we both grew up. Everything changed and we were in our own bubble, everyone else can wait xx
This is so reassuring to hear! I absolutely feel like I’ve made the right call for me - and us! 💛💛💛
Noooo definitely not being unreasonable I think that you are doing the best thing for you. I said I wanted no visitors at the hospital and I would let everyone know when I was settled at home. Most respected that however I ended up being induced due to sepsis and then ended up having a c section but was put to sleep so was rough I then had to stay in hospital I only stayed one night as I then felt pressured as I had family say well if I weren’t coming out they were coming to hospital to meet the LO which I really didn’t want so ended up discharging myself. Thinking they would wait till the next day to come they arrived an hour after getting home. It wasn’t just a couple I had 10 people arrive. I have made clear this time as I will be having another section that we won’t be having visitors and the door will be locked till I’m ready 😅. I think they’re all understanding this time.