Not wanting people round my baby
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I feel you on this one. My baby is 8 days old. We have had loads of visitors but I have tried to limit it as much as possible without upsetting anyone. You need to do what is best for you and baby. Your anxiety will not be healthy for you or baby. A the end of the day baby will be here forever. There is plenty of time to see LO when it’s good for you. Xx
Yes!! With my first I hated anyone holding her. I used to take her off people and say she is hungry. People need to back off and let you heal and get used to having a baby. We are not rushing visits. It's stressful. Do what's best for you and your baby..
@Anii I literally did this today and said she needs feeding 🙈🙈
Pleased you've put a stop to people coming over if you don't want them too. Loads of people came over when my first was born and I felt similar
I didn’t feel exactly the same first time round, I didn’t mind people holding baby, BUT I was super overwhelmed at having so many people! We had like 5 groups of people on the day my milk came in. It was horrific and I remember hiding in the kitchen, crying my eyes out because I just wanted to be in bed. With hindsight I should have put in boundaries. Do what you need to do.
We made the decision in the first two weeks that we only seen grandparents and a couple of others. Everyone else can wait for various reasons - not wanting too many people holding / cuddling him, people being sick, you’re also healing and not feeling yourself, it’s time for you, baby and dad to bond and find your feet. Do not feel bad. Our little boy is almost 3 weeks and we’ve still been limiting visitors and hardly seen anyone x
I think this is completely normal to feel like this, your baby is only 5 days old. The maternal instinct to keep them safe and close to us is so strong! Don’t feel obliged to say yes to visitors yet, just tell them you’re still settling in and will let them know when you’re ready. I think most people will be understanding. This isn’t just about meeting baby, is also allowing you the opportunity to recover following birth and to settle in as a family before you feel ready to have visitors. Alternatively, I know someone who hosted a ‘sip and see’, at a pub and invited people for a couple of hours to pop over if they wanted to see the baby. This meant it had a start and end time (only a couple of hours) and she had him in a sling the whole time - preventing others from holding him:)