Do you love being a mum?

I love my children, but I find it don't really like being a mum. On reflection I feel this may be more because I have to do everything, there dad despite all talk of the opposite was never hands on and has been quite frankly a waste of space. I do and am responsible for everything, including him being the third toddler in our space. We are just roommates at this point, I even have a bed in the kids room, he has the master. I can't help but wonder if I just feel the way I do because of this situation and had I had a loving, shared parent relationship I may not feel this way. I always dreamt of kids and a family so it makes me feel so bad to feel this way. Would love to know what others think and feel in their situation or in response to mine x

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I know feeling I work nights and even though I work nights 12hrs I still manage to do everything in the house and take kids places so yes sometimes feel the 3rd kid Is the husband

I clicked yes but i definitely feel where you’re coming from .! It’s nothing to be ashamed of . Having that loving partner that actually shares the parent load makes a whole world of difference .

A mix. I love my kids so much, I wouldn't change them for the world. But I'm in a similar place as you. I do everything and basically have a third adult child. I'm just tired all the time and feel like a glorified maid. I'm down all the time and he gets annoyed at me for being "moody" 🙄 I just wish I could have a break once in a while. Or have someone at least pretend to give a shit about me. I'm just burnt out.

I absolutely adore my daughter, and there are a lot of things about being a mom that I love. Snuggles on the couch, watching her grow and learn new things, going on Target runs where we come home with random goodies...BUT the kid I do this with is the same kid that had horrible colic as a baby, took forever to potty train, and doesn't always listen until my head turns around 360 degrees and steam starts boiling out of my ears. And as much as I love those snuggles on the couch, sometimes, I just really freaking miss getting to be alone on the couch. My husband has gotten a lot better at helping (it was not a quick improvement, believe me), and he and our daughter have a wonderful relationship...but I'm still the default parent by a long shot. It's wonderful, but it's also exhausting. It's okay to not love every single minute of parenting. It doesn't mean you're a bad mom, it just means you're a human mom. 💜

Ah! I accidentally hit no! I meant to hit yes!

I'm a sen mum , I love and adore my boys so much they are incredible, but at times I hate being a mum, it's hardwork , challenging and very full on and demanding. I wouldn't change them for the world. I'm grateful to have them.

That sounds more like not enjoying being a wife because your partner sucks. 😅 He's not being a good partner & is also setting a shit example for your children.

I agree with Dana, it sounds more of a partner problem. As you're not happy with him this is having an impact on how you're feeling as a parent. It can't just be you doing everything and him doing nothing. Parenting should be 50/50. Have you ever tried couples therapy if talking to him isn't working? You shouldn't be made to feel bad due to his lack of helping ect

@Lilly I 100% agree with you!

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