Fear of death

I’ve suffered from health anxiety for years, before pregnancy and it has peered its head during pregnancy too. It is definitely fear of the unknown and the idea that we can’t control everything in life. A good saying that’s stuck with me is “Worrying won’t change the outcome, it will only steal your present joy”. There’s only so much we can control in life and worrying about the future and “what ifs” won’t change anything other than the health of your mindset. If you’re really struggling maybe seek help from your doctor, they can offer medication or help you find talking therapies for added help! I hope you take it easy on yourself and try to stay in the present. 99% of the time there is lots more things to look forward to than to dread! 😁 My messages are always open! 🥰 x

@Amy thanks so much lovely. I am on meds and I’m hoping to get some therapy soon. I am so aware of how irrational it is and how much time I waste thinking about it but I just cannot seem to shake it. It’s so frustrating 😓 x

I know the feeling. Mine started when I was 21, I’m now 29. I’ve spent months unable to get off the sofa from dread, been unable to eat and spent numerous hours in A&E over things my mind fooled me about and proved to be a complete mental battle. Wasted so much precious time. I personally found that the only one who could actually help me was myself. No matter how much I was reassured by family and professionals it was never enough. Sometimes it’s the fight with yourself that’s the hardest to break the cycle. I usually try to journal and write to do lists as simple as ‘make the bed’ when mine shows its face. It keeps me in a routine and gives me other things to think about, as well as making you feel like you’ve done something productive when you tick things off (even if it’s just for 5 seconds of relief). It takes time, but there’s always light at the end of the tunnel. It does get better and you do learn ways to control it more 🥰 x

Yes. I feel like I haven't been connected to life or my relationships, I don't really have many friends. But I'm worried about my health at the moment and I'm worried of dying or anything happening to me and my daughter being without me and not feeling loved by me or giving her enough because honestly I don't feel like I do now, I know something is off but I don't know how to shake it and be better or taking care of myself better, I don't even really know how I feel in more ways than one. I am failing.

I am an anxious person and I have this fear. I worry about not seeing my son grow up.

Yesssssssss I was fine a year or two ago but this pregnancy has brought it back sooooooo bad sooooo bad

Ladies...I feel all of this so much that I am trying to coordinate a weekly pod on here where us mama's with mental health struggles and ppd can connect and realize we are not alone...because as you can see, we are NOT alone! Here is the link to my group if you are interested in joining the future pods: https://www.peanut-app.io/share/1Zjz9UGa3Mb Hoping to see you join and meet you in a future pod! @Amy @Amber @Melissa @Jenna

Yes! I’ve always had it but since my baby 7 months ago it’s so much worse. I mostly worry about getting cancer because it’s so common and think it’s bound to happen to me. Any random pain I get I obsess over it. If I go to the doctors for something I think what if they’re wrong, or if I don’t go to doctors I think if this is cancer it could be spreading. Sometimes I think about what it would feel like to be told I am going to die and I feel sick thinking about it. Even when I’m not thinking about it it’s always in the back of my mind. I could be having a conversation with someone or busy doing something and the thought is always there. I worry about not seeing my baby grow up. I’m on sertraline but it hasn’t helped. It’s horrible

I had to come back and find this post because I keep having anxiety attacks over this recently! I’ve had this fear for as long as I can remember, where I suddenly just remember my mortality and I can’t control my panic thinking about it. I think the only thing that helped me really was medication, which I’ve stopped recently which I think is why I’m struggling again 😅 it was definitely worse during pregnancy too. I think now just the thought of ever leaving my baby and partner is terrifying and I have awful health anxiety which is worse now that I have more to lose.

Actually sorry! I meant to say medication was the only thing that helped long term, but in the moment of panic, distracting myself is the best thing. I found doing some art or reading helped, or just housework. Although recently these happen at night when I’m in bed and there aren’t a lot of distractions 😞

Not for myself, no, which I guess is pretty sad. However, I worry every single time my husband leaves the house that he won’t come back..

@Sarah this is me to a T. I am cancer obsessed. It’s crazy and annoying and ruining my life x