Thinking off letting a friend go

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I personally stop reaching out after a few months and if they never text me first then that’s on them.

Sometimes, you outgrow the friends you think are gonna be there forever, and that's okay. Sounds like yall are in different seasons, and they just don't match up anymore. I recently had to cut off a friend myself who I thought was gonna be there til the end and was very involved in my life and my children's lives. But I strongly believe everything happens for a reason, and who's meant to be in your life will remain or show up, and those who aren't will fall away. It definitely sucks because you still grieve them, especially if you both were, at one point, mutually invested in the friendship, but that too shall pass.

If you genuinely care about her, I’d try to see if there is an underlying reason why she is like that. You never know what might be going on in her life that she is not showing. I have a very good friend of mine who I know for years and there was a period where not only I was the one reaching out first but she also started ignoring my calls and yet, I saw she was online next day and never followed-up on me. It would be very tempting for me to let her go but then we cleared things up and turned out she had very depressing events going on in her life that she never told anyone about. She had a serious insomnia, never slept at night and also started antidepressants. So I could totally see why she did not want to hear from anyone, leave alone reaching out. I was persistent though since I care and ultimately we rebuilt our connection.

@Ashley yup. She just stopped texting and I always had to reach out so I'm done.

@Olga I've been reaching out though and it's always short lived. I ask how she's doing she says OK ect..not too much but how long do I keep doing that ? When the effort isn't reciprocated. I'm going through alot too?

I know how you feel and it’s definitely not easy to keep doing it. We all want to be appreciated and be cared about. Maybe try one more time and offer a heart to heart convo and be very open about how you feel and how it’s fading on your part now. If no effort from her after that, then maybe she’s just mentally checked out of your friendship and for whatever reason is not interested in keeping the friendship. Then you can stop reaching out and it will just naturally die out.

@Olga I feel I've already reached out enough. Again I feel like we're adults. I feel like you should be able to communicate instead of me having to guess if you're okay or not and feel bad bc you kept something to yourself and I couldn't figure it out in time. He'll, I'm going through alot. A lot and she's not reaching out. Friendship is most definitely a 2 way street.

@Kiana I agree with this.

@Joanna thank you.

Yeah then maybe she just did let you go a while ago and that might be the case of no effort/interest from her part. Most likely if you stop reaching out, it just stops there. Probably in your case no sense to keep trying if she doesn’t need this friendship.

@Olga yeah if I stop reaching out and it ends just means the friendship has cycled and im fine with that.