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Am I crazy
How would you react if your mom just constantly poked and nagged at you. At your parenting and at your kids for everything. Even things you can’t control. How would you react if she spanked and yelled for longer than she needed to about your kid to your kid. If she made comments about how “it’s like they’ve never left the house” “they are spoiled” “they are bad and destroy everything”
Keep in mind I do raise my voice, I spank, I do time outs, I count down, I take away privileges. They are still toddlers. They are at the age that they are pushing boundaries, learning to use their voice and the ability to say no. I try to parent better than my mom. Growing up it was constant yelling, berating for 10 mins and hitting. I have been spanked with belts, wooden spoons she even once threw a vch tape at us and hit us with hangers. So it’s safe to say we have different parenting styles. I tried to tell her to stop yelling at us and to lower her voice. I tried to tell her to discuss this in private not around the kids and she just continued to argue and yell. My kids ran behind me and in a corner. She said they were being dramatic. I don’t know if I should let it blow over or text her tomorrow and apologize for the screaming match but that again I don’t appreciate or approve her trying to parent my kids and put them down or me down especially in front of them. I don’t even allow it to happen between me and their dad. Or do I just let it blow over untill we start to talk again. Just do you know we also have to live together bc I’m newly single mom and unfortunately am not making enough in the town I live in.
You’re definitely not alone in this. I’m going through something similar with my mom too. I don’t spank my daughter, even when my mom tells me I should & it frustrates my mom. My mom is Hispanic & I grew up with yelling, spanking & all the things that came with her parenting style. I’ve made the choice to raise my daughter differently, and it’s really hard when she doesn’t agree with my approach. She still yells at me, even in front of my daughter, and I try to stay calm and keep my voice low because I want to set a better example for her. It often feels like my mom is the one acting immature in these moments, and my daughter has even pointed out how mean grandma can be. I completely understand how exhausting it is to try and break those cycles while living under the same roof. It’s hard to know when to speak up and when to let things blow over. Whatever you decide, just remember you’re doing your best, and your kids will see the difference in how you’re trying to parent them.