Feeling low

When did you find out? I won’t lie, I was basically devastated to find out we were having twins as we already had an 18 month old and I couldn’t see how we would cope In the end we ended up getting an early gender scan at 16 weeks as I just needed something to make it more exciting rather than terrifying and it really worked Be kind to yourself. It’s a whole unexpected child and a big deal! You’ll get your head round it eventually x

For me was the other way round. I had 18 month old twins when I had my youngest. Emotions were definitely all over the place and then I had gender disappointment too which really didn't help and I was scared it was going to such hard work. But I love all my boys and even though yes it was hard work for sure it wasn't as hard as I thought it was going to be😊

Hey, hopefully the feeling will pass and you’ll see the joy and blessing in it x but I went through a bit of a shock of emotions too, I have 3 children and found out when my youngest was 11 months that I’m having twins and was like whaaaa, but seeing it as a wow it doesn’t really happen to everyone and it’s a blessing. Definitely an upgrade lol especially as I thought I was done. It’s not going to be smooth or easy but it’s going to be an amazing journey. I just take it a day at a time. You’ve got this x

Yes! I have a 2 year old and recently found out at our 12 week scan we were having twins. I think I cried for a week. Still haven’t got my head around it really. The panic of how we’ll cope and the worry about my little knee adjustment I’ve found really difficult. I was worried about the transition from 1-2 from 1-3 I just can’t comprehend. However the reaction when telling people has been amazing and everyone talks of how special it is and how blessed we are. I’ve read from many others how common it is to feel this way and have heard that in time the excitement comes and you adjust. X

I felt like this. As soon as we found out it was twins I dreaded what was going to be! Having a toddler and 2 newborns… I have a 2 year old, absolutely crazy boy, and my twins are now 8 week old. It’s hard, it’s full on but it’s nowhere near as bad as I’d imagined in my head! I still haven’t got my head around having twins. Don’t think I ever will 😂 But honestly, best thing ever seeing my 3 boys together ❤️

I felt absolutely the same. I was gutted when I found out my second baby was actually twins. I was so scared about how we’d cope with a 2 year old as well. I never really accepted it until they were born TBH. My twins have just turned 1. The first year is hard. There are wonderful moments, but it’s hard work and you’re full of guilt that you can’t give the twins what you gave the eldest. My advice would be to get as much help as you possibly can whether that be family/ friends, or paid childcare. We found a part-time Nanny and I think that’s the only way I’ve stayed sane. I’ve spent a lot of my maternity pay on it, but we’ve made it through the first year! x

Thank you everyone this has deffo reassured its not just me. Did people let there midwife know I feel will they say I'm depressed I'm such an over thinking which never helps

I dint think they will hear this and say depression. They will likely be understanding of the fact you have a young toddler and are expecting 2 babies, not just one. It is more than likely if you were excited you still are but that is bring over run by over thinking so scared and nervous emotions are taking over. Which is totally fine. For me twins were my 1st I had suffered multiple miscarriages prior so didn't know how to feel then had complications near the end and had to deliver early and feared they might not make it I didn't have an attacemt to protect myself and no one to talk to at the time. If you speak with your midwife she can offer talking therapies for you to prevent future possible pnd. It's just nerves and I guarantee when your little babies get here you will be so happy and filled with love ❤️ if you ever need to chat my inbox is open x

@Charlotte you won't😂 my twins are 2.5 years and I still look at them and think wow them 2 humans are my humans I have twins🤣 they are little moments every now and then when they are sat together for example and I suddenly remember they are twins and they belong to me😂😂