in 2014 Kids 🇬🇧
Need advice!!
My daughter does this voice, it’s a whiney moany voice and it really gets to me! Whenever she’s asked to do anything even the simplest of things she does this voice. When I say to her she says I SAID NOTHING WRONG. I said it wasn’t what was said it was how it was said. She also tends to repetitively ask me for things if I say no or she can’t have something. She also stamps her feet and screams. Also if I say something she always always has to back chat even when I ask her not too. She will be 11 in January. I have 4 kids and I’m worried about the little ones copying this behaviour. I have a meeting at school this week but just want to try help best I can any advice would be great
Maybe tell her calmly you don't like the voice, but you love her. Then ignore the voice. Just act like she's speaking to you normally. You can't control her doing the voice but you can control how you react to it. If she asks you once, answer her. Then answer her again, calmly and kindly. The third time explain gently that you have already answered and that the answer will not change. Ignore the back chat. Praise her for things she does well, anything. Or even just tell her how much you love her. Anything positive. When she stamps and screams, explain calmly that you understand that she's frustrated but that she doesn't get her own way by having a tantrum and when she's calmed down you'd love to have a cuddle. Explain nicely why she can't have it her. You could even offer her a cuddle during the tantrum. She's just frustrated and doesn't know how to manage it, she's only a child and still leanring how to regulate her emotions. But she needs to know she is loved, you are her safe space x