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Make sure baby is fed changed pop them in pram they will nap wherever u are the baby will adjust to your lifestyle it's just a little harder, continue what you do.. I know it sounds harder then it really is just go for it and try it and you will be fine, I do it with a 15 month old and a 8 week and also have 2 older children xx
If you feel comfortable then just feed them when you’re out. Or feed and wind them and then put them in the pram and go out. Honestly make the most of this time now whilst they’re not aware of their existence and their naps are flexible. Book baby groups, at this age if they do sleep through them then at least you’ve had the social interaction. This is the time to be out all the time, spent all my maternity pay last time on caramel lattes and cake 😂
That is one thing I have learnt now it isn’t my first baby is that they can fit in with you. I’ll make sure baby is fed before we leave the house I am BF so maybe that makes it easier as she feeds ALL the time and then go from there, particularly at this age it is good to get them used to your schedule they will sleep in the pram and aren’t too bothered by noise etc. If I have to stop at a coffee shop / bench etc to feed or change nappy that is fine. I find it better for me mentally to be out and I kind of have to nowadays because of my other children. I normally find getting out the door the hardest bit, after that it is less stressful.
@AB @Kirsty @Terri @Michelle thanks for the encouragement! I cannot wait to get the baby to adjust to my lifestyle and schedules and honestly been feeling stuck at home.. I have a question with regards to feeding. If she's feeding once in 2 - 3 hours and say she's already been breastfed at 8am and I've got an appointment at 10am, should I wake her up at 930am to feed her before leaving the home? I struggle navigating feeding times when she's sleeping or before she wakes and cries for milk. I'd like to reduce the chances of having to feed her just after leaving the home. Another thing is she doesn't always nap in the pram after I feed her. She seems quite stimulated with the surroundings. Will this potentially make baby overtired? My hope is that the more I bring her out and with the motion she eventually falls asleep. How do you soothe a loud crying baby in public? I'm very nervous about her wailing so loudly. worry that I'm on the streets, with not many suitable places to breastfeed or soothe her.
I personally do that. I wake my daughter up for a feed before we leave the house just so she doesn’t get cranky on the way there. If she’s a newborn then feed her every 2-3 hours but no more than 4 hours. It can be difficult but it’s all temporary. Have you tried a white noise machine ? Mine loves the car sounds on Spotify lol and also please give yourself grace and remember that babies cry. If she cries in public it’s fine people will understand and if they don’t F them 🤣🙂↕️. Also a lot of shopping centres have breastfeeding facilities etc. I know Primark do as well. Also you can buy a muslin breastfeeding cover from Amazon for feeding when out and about. I’ve definitely been in your position when I had my first and it’s awful when you can’t get into the rhythm of things but it’ll come. Just be patient and like I said give yourself grace. You’re doing amazing ❤️❤️❤️
I think @AB has said everything I would say. I’d also suggest you take a friend out with you. The one you feel comfortable with so the first time she feeds and is fussy then you’ve got that support/ someone to giggle with. First time I did a wild feed I sprayed all over the cafe table 😂 I think once you’ve taken the leap it feels much easier. Then just keep at it! You’ve got this mumma bear!!
Totally get how you feel. My midwife told me that so long as bubba is fed, nappy is changed and all their needs are taken care of just pop them in the buggy and go for a walk and it’s worked thus far :)