Why do men find it so easy to step outside and do normal day to day life activities just days after birth?

Because you let him do it. My husband is taking 2weeks straight and is not leaving the house apart from taking the dog for a walk.

They don't have maternal instinct like we do. I wouldn't want to leave my new baby so soon. Also have you told him how you feel? My partner stayed home with me the whole time he was on paternity

I think there’s a hormonal element to it. As a mother, your hormones are going haywire all day - producing milk, making you maternal and anxious etc. Are you happy that he’s managing to get out? Or are you feeling jealous and down because of it? Either way, definitely worth speaking to someone close to you and getting some support, as motherhood can feel isolating at times.

Is the issue that you need his help or support? If not I would welcome him getting out and enjoying himself while I cuddled and loved on my new baby. Men go through stress when their partners have a baby as well. Not in the same way as mamas but they can sometimes feel helpless or not needed during the process. It’s good to have a circle of supportive women so you can get help and feel validated. Postpartum doulas are great if you can afford one.

BC we allow them

@Luz How would you stop him? He’s an adult. He should be doing whatever he wants. We can’t control men.

My man was just as sleep deprived as me…I mean I was in labour for 27hrs…had the baby late night, he came every single day in hospital for the whole time hospital was open for visits, woke up nights w me to make sure I got everything I needed and I was comfortable…changed diapers burped baby washed pump parts held baby while I shower etc, when we both stepped out at 5-6w w the baby for the first time he was just as sleep deprived as me, he didn’t go nowhere by himself for “leisure” in that time. We did see friends but they came to visit us and the baby. If he’s stepping out to see friends days after birth I would just tell him- look I need you to be home w me and baby just for a few weeks- I need your unconditional help and support as we made this baby together I didn’t make this baby on my own now did I?