Bullying - fat mom jokes

I had a conversation with my 10 year old yesterday. She shared with me that some boys at school in 3 grade had made fun of her for having a fat mom. Her supposed friend also made a similar comment. I honestly can’t ever recall a time where I heard of kids making fun of other parents to someone’s face. I may be naive but one would think in this body accepting world that this wouldn’t happen. Anyone have similar stories, how did you handle them?

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If you have any of the parents number i’d call them and tell them directly how their kid is acting

@sarah I should have added more context, the events occurred 1-2 years ago that she told me about yesterday. Hashing it now wouldn’t do much unfortunately:(

damn :/ if it happened that long ago i would just tell her some people lack kindness. not much else to do i think 🥲

I m very sorry you and your daughter had to hear that body shaming. I would have said the same as Sarah but if it happened long time ago, I would probably focus more on her feelings. How did she feels on that moment? If she felt angry at them ? Or at you ?(Wouldn't be reasonable to be upset at you, but we are humans and sometimes our feelings are very irrational and that's ok). Show your daughter you can have the talk without taking it personal. Body shaming is AWFUL. I m so sorry

Tbh in third grade, this type of behavior is not uncommon.

@Dominique when I was a teacher i noticed from late second grade and on that the bullying skyrocketed.

@Aurélie I told her not to let her bother it. It’s not any fault of her own and that those were unimaginative cheap shots from a low IQ brain.

Kids don’t have filters they will say stuff to each other without realising how it affects who they’re saying it too. I would just do as you have done explain to your daughter to ignore comments like that, she can’t control the behaviour of others but she can control who she is friends with and who she surrounds herself with. If they make her unhappy, try to find some other friends?

I’m so sorry this happened. Both for you and for your daughter. Unfortunately, people are going to say mean things in this world. I think I would focus on setting an example for your daughter - ask her how that made her feel, and tell her that it is not ok to comment on other people’s bodies and that although other people might do that this is not something that is done in your family. Show her that you love yourself and your body, and have your husband complement you in front of her.

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