I start my new job tomorrow🎉🎉

Is there anyway you can get help through charities to give you a clean escape?

@Dagmara iv tried speaking to womens aid I will make contact with them again to seek more support

I know how it feels to be in your situation. Please do what you can. No one can truly help you except yourself. Sometimes it's not possible to get away and I understand that. I really hope you find your way💯🙏🏼

@Dagmara thank you 💝

Crossing my fingers for you! Hopefully you get to leave and start a new wonderful life without an arsehole Congratulations on your new job, I'm sure you will do amazing! It's the first, and the most important step, you have done a great thing getting this far - you should be so proud of yourself 🫂

Thank you 😊

He has acted up this morning dragging me, I'm getting out the house now He said he don't give a F about my new job

Just think, your path to freedom starts tomorrow. His opinions are of no consequence to you. When you are at work, you will have hours of no abuse. If he asks you how your day was, just say it was rubbish as you found it hard to complete work. If he knows you are happy, he will try to take it away from you. Don't let him know how much you get paid, say HR hasn't sorted out your wage slips as yet, open a new bank account if you have to. Just remembered - freedom is in sight...you CAN'T let this crumble. You will need the financial security to be free. Nobody misses a beating, run as fast as you can. 🫂❤️❤️

@Ki thank you, I'm starting the job today, I'm on the way to it now :) I'm based UK it's 7.44am here You are so right, when I'm down he seems like his better with me, it's so draining. He never wanted to see me happy, he is around because I'm struggled financially so bad that I needed help with bills and food but he doesn't help I have to beg for the support. Then he laughs at me and says I'm desperate and I make him sick and it's true it makes me sick to beg and yes I am desperate because my cost of living is high even though iv cut everything, it's because I'm a single mum with my child and his a teen son the bills are heavy and things I need for my son and food costs alot in the house. Iv been with this man almost 2 years and it's been hell and I think his took advantage because he knows I'm struggling. The emotional abuse is the worse, the mind games and just his wanting to break me is crazy because iv never understood where it's stemmed from just like that out the blue a few months into the relation

-ship he changed and I keep wondering what started the change but it could be that he just could see I was desperate for support and he had someone who was available for him to abuse in every way whether emotionally or physically. I have enabled this out of desperation of needing support Yes I womt mention how much I get paid, he said today know I'm working he won't help with food :( I'm 34 and just traumatised, I did some reflection on how I even got to know him and I realised he could see I had no one, no family or friends, no support system, just isolation. I came to peanut to make real meaningful friendships. The few friends I have a not good for me, they only care about my downfall hence why I'm here on a app saying I'm starting a new job because who do I say that too...no one

All being well I will get paid end of October from this job and today was the day I was meant to leave him but I realised I can't financially help myself between today and then but having him around is hell. He was supposed to give me money for lunch today and he has refused. I'm hoping tonight to try and ask him again for money for food he picks and chooses when he will give the money for food. He is meant to send money by 2pm today and I have to call him when I'm at work to ensure he does it but with him knowing I'm at work he will keep blocking my calls, not because he can't send the money but because he wants to disorientate me at work, again that was his plan last night for hitting me and this morning for dragging me when I was trying to get ready. I tried to be super nice this morning because I really needed him to send that money by 2pm today and the cycle of headaches continue

It's best you leave the relationship for your own sake. Before it gets worse or end up dead. Please take care

@Jojo thank you it's true

I just got home, first day was good, quite tired thank you all for the encouraging words His not here at the moment so I have peace for a few hours. He did call when I was at work about the money in the bank I told him I can only message but continued to call so I doubt his put the money in because I couldn't answer

Omg this is awful please message me if you want to talk,well done and congratulations on the new job 👍🏾 youv done so well at getting this job he is deffo jealous but please stay strong❤️❤️❤️ breaks my heart you have to deal with him

@chriisy thank you for your kind words

So he said he couldn't find the bank card to put money on the card for food, he was meant to come to the house today to drop the cash instead, he called at 7pm and 11pm saying his coming to drop the cash. I fell asleep and woke up , called him now (almost 1am) he said he's at his friend's house and his going to sleep and he will drop the cash in the morning. I explained that iv been waiting all day for the money and you said you was on the way and he said oh well I'll drop it early in the morning and he switched off his phone. I have to leave very early in the morning the money is for food for tomorrow for me and my son I can see my new job is bothering him so his purposely trying to disorientate me like he did the night before for fighting me so I would wake up late for my first day. Tonight he knows I will worry that he won't come on time in the morning his doing his best to disorientate me mentally so then I'm stressed and tired knowing iv just started a new job

Unfortunately I can't go to work today. They have told me not to come in. I asked him for the money so that my son can have food today and myself and he said to come to collect it from his friends house that he ain't giving me nothing unless I come and get it and his too comfortable in bed I drove there and there was alot of traffic, he gave me just £10 even though I asked for £50 as iv been driving back I called the manager and said I'm running late they said it's day 2 and not to come in I'm gutted

Does that mean u won't have the job anymore , I think I should call them explain your situation a little and see if they can be understanding, don't let this man ruin you and your happiness

@chriisy I called the agency they said they will forward me any roles that come up in the future I'm just fed up to be honest

Ohhh okay ,best of luck don't be too disheartended

@chriisy thank you