Single mom stress

Anyone else feel like they are not meant to be a mom. Like it's everything you have always wanted, but your not the mom you want to be. I find myself snapping at the littlest things, like my daughter having an pee accident. Or her getting upset when I try to brush her hair. And I just go straight to ahhh. Like I know I'm only making things more difficult for myself. I'm just so burnt out, mentally, physically, emotionally. I just feel like I'm screwing up my daughter. Before I had my daughter I was successful, financially stable, motivated. Now I'm all over the place, I've lost everything, becoming a mom. I went from a corporate 40 hour a week job, to now I work a part time job, making a 4th of what I used too. I can't afford daycare, her father is a narcissist POS. I'm just sick of being this person, I know isn't the real me.

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I don’t think you are not meant to be a mom. You said yourself it’s everything you have always wanted. Being a single mom is just so freaking hard. It takes so much out of you. Trust me I feel ahhh all the time as well. When I first became a single mom I didn’t take a lot of time for myself, but I started to realize I had a short fuse because I was so burnt out. I ended telling my kids dad he needed to start helping me more, occasionally I’ll ask my mom if she can watch my kids for an afternoon or even an hour. If you have anyone in your life that can help out at all I would utilize it. Or when your daughter goes to bed at night try to remember to take some time to relax & do something you enjoy. Because when you’re all go go go for your kid & never doing anything for yourself it’s harder to be calm. Don’t beat yourself up too much, being a mom is the hardest thing most of us will do. & being a single mom just makes your job 10x harder. You’re doing your best 💗

I have started to try to prioritize my happiness a little. I have started to date. I just feel so guilty constantly asking my family for help. They watch my daughter every evening when I go to work. So when I have a day off and I wanna go out on a date I feel guilty, cause 1. They are watching her for me to just go out not work, and 2. My daughter thinks I'm working, and sometimes she gets upset when I leave.

Girl I know how you feel. Whenever I leave my kids they get upset because they are SO used to always having me around, & it breaks my heart. But at some point in their lives your kids have to be away from you. You shouldn’t feel bad though, about taking care of your needs. If your family is willing to help you should take advantage. They do it because they love you & your daughter, that’s what family is for. I know it’s hard to balance everything because we end up feeling guilty for trying to prioritize ourselves but it’s honestly essential to your sanity & being a good mom. My family helps a lot & I feel bad as well but they are always telling me not to feel bad because they genuinely love being around my kids which I’m sure is the same in your case.

I feel like this sometimes, it’s just so fucking hard when you don’t have help and then of course the guilt doing anything for yourself. This shit really isn’t fair.

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