Feeling trapped?

I really feel for you. Mine is 7 weeks and so far doesn't seem to have colic or reflux, so I do take her out, but even then it is daunting. I had to go to the opticians last week and literally had her on my lap whilst being tested, letting her suck my fingers, as she was crying and seemed hungry but I'd fed her just before going in! I have 2 appointments tomorrow and dreading them lol I too always worry she will get upset and I won't be able to manage it. One thing that always calms her down instantly is feeding her, so I will do so anywhere and everywhere, im often in the car feeding her too. Have you tried all the things they suggest for colic and reflux? Is he breast fed or formula?

I feel you! Like Claire, my 2 month old son doesn’t seem to have colic or reflux but the past couple of weeks have been super hard in terms of crying and fussiness. Having him in a baby carrier has been a game changer. He falls asleep right away which makes going out more enjoyable.

My baby was exactly the same with colic and reflux. This is his 4th milk we have out him in and he’s on the lactose free and finally a bit more settled. I have only just properly started leaving the house and he is 7 weeks old. I also felt the same when my partner went back to work. Have you tried the belly hugger? I think that’s what it’s called. Basically baby hot water bottle. Really helped my LB. It annoyed me when people said don’t worry it will pass. Because it’s awful in that time. It’s so hard seeing your baby in pain and not being able to do anything. There will be certain times in the day they aren’t as bad. Just get out and walk around the block. Anything. Even around the garden! Feel free to message me as it sounds like you’re in the exact same position as me. It does get better but it doesn’t take away from how hard it is right now. My LB went for his first sleepover at 2 weeks old at grandmas as I was close to a breakdown. Your not alone 💕💕

I feel you too! It is so hard to predict how they are going to be out. If you can try short walks and short trips where you can get home quickly if need be to build confidence and try and not worry what other people think if baby is crying. It is very daunting and draining if baby has reflux,/colic and if you aren't getting much sleep then that can make anxiety worse. I express so my other half can do one feed in the night which helps me get more sleep. Also have you considered listening to a meditation for anxiety? Not for everyone but they have a good 10 minute one on Spotify that could help xx

My daughter had bad coloc, if you can drive even just go for a ride about as that seemed to settle mine and grab yourself a drive thru dinner for a treat x

When my LO is being particularly fussy (6-8 weeks peak of crying is no joke!) I have ‘safe’ outings I go on, where I know places I can escape to if baby is really on one. For example the coffee shop where I know all the staff already and I’m not going to feel judged or like people are annoyed at me, or John Lewis because they have a ‘parents room’ where I can try and feed or settle or change them in peace. I’m a pretty anxious person, so when things feel overwhelming I like to have simple plans to fall back on!

My first baby was like this and I didn’t leave the house for the first 4 months, my little girl now also had colic but I’ve found she’s better when we’re out than when we’re at home so it’s worth trying to go just to see what they are like!