Those with rough/no relationship with your mother: do you find it tough at times?

I have a good relationship with my mother but not my father, this relates to me in that way. And yes I find it very tough at times. I find myself in tears randomly but I just have to trust im doing what I feel is best for me and my family. Healing is not linear love, be gentle with yourself 🫶🏻

I relate to this. I haven't talked to my bio mother since I was 8, and I keep thinking imma cut off my stepmother soon because of the way she acts and how much she drinks. I've seen some of my friends and their moms relationships, and I'm jealous of it.

I dont speak to mine at all she doesnt deserve the effort or work i put into having a relationship with her. Relationships no matter who with have issues but if only one person is trying whats the point

No. I don’t care. I’m glad she’s dead.

I live with my mom and still don't have much of a relationship with her maybe a little but the way I've been treated in the past sometimes gets to me

Haven't spoken to mine in 12 years, and that's for the best. Mine is alot like yours.

My mother and father were both absent intermittently throughout my childhood and my adulthood. (Currently speak to my mum but she’s gone at the drop of a hat if something else comes up better for her). Made me extremely sad at times, feelings of rejection, devaluing yourself in life. Seeing others lovely family bonds can be heartbreaking at times. But now I have my girl 👶 . It makes me look to the future of all the great memories we can make together and she’ll be / we’ll be what never was for me and can right all those wrongs ❤️ And hopefully if any of my daughters friends growing up have a tough time like that we can share our happy home times with them to brighten up their lack of it if they ever need. Some women just shouldn’t have kids or be mothers. Some fathers too. But I think it makes you do things (hopefully) differently with your own. Also similarly to you don’t have a huge circle as have drifted a lot in life due to how the past made me navigate life and relationships.

At some point, you have to come to grips that who you were and what you’ve experienced before the age of 18, doesn’t define who you are today. Once you become a mother, no bond is more important than the bond you now have with the family you’ve created. A good relationship with your parents is a plus but ultimately it’s meaningless. You have to be stronger than your feelings, thoughts, and your past. -Signed a mother who grew up with a single father and no mother.

Even though we didn't have a great relationship, I do still mourn the fact she won't meet her grandkids and miss her for the big moments in my life. However unhealthy our relationship was, she was still my mum. Family was all I had. Now I have no one, lonely is an understatement.

no. i have a horrible relationship with my mom. i can’t imagine having her in my life and being happy at the same time. thinking about her makes me violently angry lol