Missing who I used to be…
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@Naomi thank you, I really appreciate your comment
I have a 8 month old daughter as she’s literally my reason for everything but I still have a few courses to take to graduate college and I’m so scared to go back to school. I miss having the freedom her dad has now being that he’s younger than me so he currently is still in school.
I relate! My LO was a *surprise* so I feel like I didn’t get to live it up so to speak before I got pregnant - I just was one day and everything changed. I tried telling my husband how difficult it is because he is still very much the person he was before baby, whereas I’ve made so many sacrifices and changes I don’t always know who I am
@Katelyn I found out about my special surprise already 5 months in. My life definitely sped up and now I feel as if I have no identity outside of being my daughter’s mother
Don’t miss who you used to be, because your saying oh that was me back then, I’m a mom now I must be an old boring woman etc. Be exactly who you want to be now! child or not don’t feel guilty. I’ve just gotten over that feeling. My daughter 4 now took a while but Yh u have to think your kids won’t be kids forever they gonna leave home one day and live their own adult life and where will u be? Kids come 1st sure but we ain’t dead remember what u like and enjoy plan good times for future if can’t do now.
My therapist says that this new you will be one that you’ll soon can’t imagine your life without. Just try to think of how much becoming a mother has inspired you, driven you and changed you for the better.
Do you have someone in your life that can look after baby for a couple hrs while you go do your thing? I don’t miss it coz I’m still doing it. Hubby looks after baby so I can go out once, twice a week. I need my breaks and I demanded my me time really early on so now he’s just used to it. I need that 1-2 nights a week for myself. Not only that, but I have friends inviting me out so I just tell him oh I’m having dinner w so and so on Sat at 6pm you’ve got nothing on yeah? And he’ll say nah he’s got nothing on baby can stay w him.
My baby is now 5 months old and as much as I love being a mom, I definitely get feelings like this. It’s not like I exactly miss who I was before having her either because I’ve come a long way since then but I do miss the feeling of freedom I had before. I feel stir crazy quite often because of being in the home or everywhere I go it’s still with her. It’d be nice to have a break from these duties for just a little bit but I do love her more than life and would never want to trade that for anything. I really do hear you on this. It’s good to know there’s others out there feeling the exact same way. You’re definitely not alone in feeling this and it’s okay to feel like this. Our whole lives have changed becoming a mama and it’s a huge life adjustment to get used to.