It sounds like a nanny would be the best solution. Day cares tend to operate on routine and structure.
I've heard thing about BOK Play Cafe in Toronto - wondering if something like this is what you're looking for? However, I've never personally been. Hope this helps
I am in the same boat with my toddler! He’s not 3 till December so I don’t want to send him to pre- school.. commenting to see what suggestions you get!