😬 that’s a tough one. You’d much rather have your children in day care if you have to pay your mum. These are the joys of being a grandmother but if she’s tight then it’s ok to get her something to appreciate her. However I think the fact that she asked for money is fair because she’s spending those hours possibly helping but it’s not very nice tbh. My mum would NEVER. She’d say leave your child here I’ll see you in a week. She will also have a few toys if not loads and some baby friendly food options. X
If you’re struggling with the money explain to her why you have to resort to leaving your child with her whilst you work. Surely she will understand
I wouldn't pay my mom for her to have time with my son. I mean, she care for him twice a week. That's not like she is doing full time.
That’s a tough one. I would be offended if my mom asked me to pay her for childcare BUT I would never ask my mom to be my regular caregiver because that’s not fair for her; she’s just for date nights and like one long weekend a year.
If she was providing me regular babysitting two days a week, I would pay her. My Mom wouldn’t take the money but I still think offering is the right thing to do. If your mom is asking, she may need the money.
Personally, if my mam/dad or my partners mam/dad asked us to pay them for looking after their grandchild then I wouldn’t be asking them to watch them. I think as a grandparent you should want to look after them and help out your son/daughter. When our son goes to his grandparents for the day/night etc I just make sure he has all his meals with him and everything so there’s no need for them to be spending any money on him. However the grandparent does have food for him there anyway and plenty toys etc just because they like to have things at their house.