How do moms who need to work do it?.

Having a family around really helps for me

@Saina i agree . But i dont have that unfortunately.

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Hi! We only have one child, but we both work full time and don't have family nearby so we've been in similar situations. For me and my husband we tag team it because we have some flexibility from work. I work from home and he can work from home if needed. What we usually end up doing is I'll work the morning while he watches the kiddo and then we switch for the afternoon. Ours is young enough that there's also a nap time in there so we can both work during that 2 hr chunk. If it's just one day of sick, I will probably just take the day off, but I started a new job when I came back from maternity leave and didn't have any stick time or vacation time to use yet. Another thing that can help with extended sickness is FMLA or your state might also have a family leave program (Oregon has a paid family leave program). We have also asked Grandpa to come help out once as he is retired. It's a three hour drive though so we only do that in emergencies (only 2 more years and Grandma will retire!)

How often are they sick enough to need to stay home? Sick leave includes taking care of family. If you have the option to work from home that could help. Trading off days home with partner would also make this easier.

Ages? Depending on ages can walk/ get home or use PTO or call out and make up hours… stagger drop off pu times , use before and or after care , buddy with another mom that I trust at the school for the other drop / off pick up. Tell the school about the other sickness and your limited options so may be late etc

I have 11 & 7 both were sick recently one last week then one this week. They share.🫢 But it’s the main reason I work from home. I work during the day most of the time but then I play catch up at night sometimes. If you are running the show solo most of the time it does get rough.

@Rachel or “faux solo” when the partner doesn’t partner.

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Little different scenario but I went through this with my only. I can't tell you the times she was sick one week then sick 2 weeks later. I also don't count sick as snotty but no fever, so if she has a fever of 101+ then that's sick for me & that is a standard across public school systems as well. I have had extensive conversations with schools for my families kids/ cousins because state mandated public schools are to keep children in school unless they are vomiting or have a temperature of 101.4+ If a child is sleepy, snotty, coughing- a public school cannot send them home without the above labeled temperature. When a child has what is classified as a cold- you can press charges for them being sent home as this directly affects their attendance which as we all know is negative points. This is all in the handbook each teacher is given & have to stay certified in communicable diseases etc annually. So I'm an Early Educator myself, if you didn't notice by now🤣 so my work is very understanding.

Schools also love to send kids home by manipulating the parents stating their child is having a really hard day & sounds really sick- if they don't have a 101+ THEY NEED TO STAY in school lol

If my daughter isn’t that sick, she goes to daycare still. If she is, I mean, you don’t have a choice. You have to take off. When her dad is being a dad I would give her to him, but that’s few times in between. Typically it’s me. Or I’ll try to go in and leave early, see what day of the week it is and see if she can hold off till the weekend and nurse she Friday and the whole weekend.

It's tough. Jobs need to be more mom friendly. My job was flexible, I was working remote. I would work and keep my son home but it wasn't easy. He was needy, miserable and I still had to meet my deadlines. His dad's job is not flexible 6am-5pm or 9:30pm I got laid off and finding another remote job has been impossible so I will probably be faced with this dilemma soon because I will have to go into the office. I only have one kid though so I can only imagine two. We don't live in the same state as family so it's just us. Good Luck, hopefully your bosses can be understanding.

Thank you ladies for all the responses. I learned a lot and im taking many of your suggestions seriously as needed. I may have not yet made any new friends on peanut but you moms sure do have useful information that many others dont.. like me. Thank you.

No problem! It's so hard when you become a parent then ofcourse have multiple because one gets sick then it's inevitable the other will. Teachers are also SUPPOSED (certified daycares as well) open windows in the classrooms to help with colds/ viruses!! It's also very healthy to have a child continue to attend school with a cold, this helps build their immune system- when you take them out of that environment they go home to a clean environment where now they may not benefit from all the germs they would in school (sounds crazy I know, but it's all very helpful) around age 6-7 this all tapers down & fevers drastically reduce❤️