In need of advice

don’t

@Morgan But you love the person, been with them for 7 years, have two kids with him what do I do?

Because we hope one day they can treat us the way we treat them. In the beginning they show us someone who they aren’t and that’s who we fall for. Once they start changing we end up in denial that their true colors are showing…

I will preface what I'm going to say with, communication is important and you should talk about your grievances before taking action. However, if words have no effect then do what you gotta do. People will treat you the way you allow them to treat you. If you continue to tolerate bad behavior, why would they change the behavior? I'm a firm believer in matching energy, if that person gives you the bare minimum then you give the bare minimum to them in return. A relationship, romantic or platonic, can only thrive if respect is given equally. If they don't reciprocate your efforts then they don't respect you. You deserve to be treated the way you treat them.

I think as others have said communication is so important and vital. You need be honest and discuss expectations as well as acknowledging where there is a sufficient need for compromises. I hope you are able to have an honest, open conversation with your boyfriend to figure out what will be going on moving forward.