How do you connect with significant other since having a baby?

Same here... Really struggling

This was my husband and I too. It’s really hard when you don’t have family to even help out for a little bit. It honestly didn’t get better till my son started getting a routine and being more independent. I had a Velcro baby till he was one, things got easier once my son started walking and stuff. We also co slept till a couple months ago so we would try to spend time together after the baby would fall asleep even if it was only for 30 minutes on the couch watching tv. You have to take advantage of every baby free second to reconnect

saaaame! the perfect scenario is we hire help, but thats something neither my hubbs nor i am comfortable with. 😭

Take advantage of them not being able to move and you can sit and enjoy food, them out with you for food and drinks x

My advise is try your best to sort this out before you’re in the permanent room mate situation. I have co slept with my baby for 9 months but haven’t slept in the same bed as my partner for 13 months. I mentioned that it was really getting to me and I needed that connection but he seemed happy with our arrangement we now can’t get past that room mate stage and as horrible as it is feelings have faded very quickly, I didn’t want this to happen but without any physical connection it’s bound to. Babies really test relationships some are strong enough some aren’t and I don’t think me and my partner are quite strong enough, before you and yours get to that stage change something quickly!x

Thanks ladies. What I’ve done so far is Limit phone and tv time so when we are together it’s more interactive. So things like playing a board game or planning a family holiday. Or just talking in bed quietly about our day while little one sleeps. It’s just so much effort for something that used to be effortless 🥲.

It’s hard, isn’t it? We keep forgetting to tell each other things about our day. We go on long walks at the weekend and LO will sleep for some of that, so we get a bit of time. But I think it’s just going to be like this for a little while.

@Leila wow you have literally described my partner and I to a T! It’s crazy how quickly things can fizzle out and feelings fade. 100% agree on trying to fix it before it gets to this stage. Xx

@Priya it’s so sad isn’t it! You have to work really hard when you have babies to keep the spark their and mine and my partners has completely gone but pre baby we couldn’t leave each other alone, Things change so quickly xx

We sit on the couch watch tv or have a chat after LG goes to bed for like 30 mins or so, always catch up how our day went when we get time to, always snuggle before bedtime (where possible) as we don't co sleep baby is in a next to me. Today after he finished work we took baby for her vaccinations , had a park walk some ice cream and then came home did a pamper face mask session and just having fun whilst she slept. So anything and everything really whenever we get a moment.

My LG loves to contact nap, but once she's asleep, if we want time together, we pop her in her crib (next to me crib) and hang out etc. I've just got a baby monitor too so I can have peace of mind when we leave her in the crib & go to the living room. Honestly, it's the best way to do it.

Try baby hammock for day nap, it can be installed on a crib

@Leila yeah completely agree. It’s so so true when they say babies can either make you and break you and sucks to be in the second scenario! I hope you’re doing ok though because it’s not easy living in this situation! Xx