Feeling lonely

Not sure if it's a super common thing but I feel that since ive had my daughter 15 months ago, ive lost a lot of friends. Friends I thought that would always be there have gone. To make things worse, my husband has changed his personality since ive had my daughter and has been emotionally abusive. I feel I have just a few surface level friends closeby and my true friends are scattered around and quite a distance away. I feel ive been strong up until recently and its really starting to get to me. Im in the wait list for counselling but it's taking so long. I feel all I have is my daughter and know that when she gets older I will be all alone. How can people learn to be happy just by themselves? Im not staying cooped up in the house all the time or anything. I take my daighter out everyday to activities and i exercise and eat well. I just feel i want to lock myself away from everyone and cry. I try to be confident in myself but ive always had low self esteem and anxiety. I do know that I deserve a good life as we all do. I don't even know what I really want from this post. I'm just so sad

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I'm sorry to hear you're feeling like this. I have a 14 month old and some days I feel the same. I have a mums group but feel like we've missed a lot of meet ups and then have missed opportunities to connect and make strong friendships and when we do go, everyone's so close. A couple of other friends have slightly older kids so hard to find places to go to catch up that suits everyone. I also suffer from low self-esteem and social anxiety so it's hard for me to put myself out there a lot sometimes. I work casually at my job now as well and feel like I'm on the outer with a lot of people I used to be really close with.

If you need to chat, feel free to message me. There’s plenty of resources out there, don’t hesitate to reach out to people if you need some help. I wish you all the best 🤍

I'm sorry that you're feeling lonely. Everything seems to change when you have a baby and people's masks tend to slip as well. Having low self esteem is pretty common and it takes a lot to learn to be happy by yourself because humans are pack animals. We need others but lately people have forgotten that humans need each other. Reach out to people online if that helps. I've found that the best and most supportive friends I have are people I've met online and never in person. It took me years to kind of enjoy being by myself but it was really hard. If you want to chat feel free to message me.

I think the root cause is a lack of support from your husband. Not having a close support network is amplifying your feelings of being alone and not supported....but most of that is from your husband. If he was loving, hands on and supportive, you wouldn't feel this way. Do you want to stay in the relationship? Have you called him out on his behaviour?

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