Has the midwife ruined my surprise😢!

If it was a midwife app and not a scan there's no way they'd know. I think people just have defaults. I remember the sonographer saying she tends to call all babies he (were having a girl) xx

There is no way for them to know without doing an ultrasound. She probably just wanted to refer to the baby as something rather than “it”. That’s what I find with mine anyway

For my friend they kept saying 'he' so she was convinced it was a boy. She had a girl! X

I’m a midwife and no there is no way to know, even from a scan I wouldn’t be able to tell (they all look the same to me) and I doubt many midwives would know from a scan.

They tend to say she. Doesn't necessarily mean they know the gender.

No, only a sonographer would know I believe, my last pregnancy I was sent for an urgent scan 2 days before my son was delivered and the sonographer turned around and said aww HE has lovely long legs.. Luckily my mum came to the appointment and not my partner so I kept it as a suprise to him. Although we both felt all along it was a boy x

I think calling it she is very common.. even after telling my midwife I was having a boy she still sometimes says she or her then goes “sorry it’s a boy isn’t it” I think it’s just bc they don’t like saying “it” I’ve had her say “they” before I had my 20week scan and I was paranoid she knew something I didn’t 🤣 (twins) but it’s just how they roll. Hopefully for you it’s similar situation x

There is no definitive way a midwife can tell at an appointment… however they do say they get a hunch depending on baby’s heart beat sounds! E.g. train - boy and galloping horse - girl! But again nothing 100% accurate without a scan to prove… and sometimes the scan can get it wrong! My mum was told with her third all the way through she was having a girl, turns out I had a brother! Xx

I mean if you’re not certain either way, it’s still a surprise :)

I don’t think so, our baby has been called he, she, baby.. I don’t think she would know from notes xx