Solo parenting without a village
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My partner is military and away in the week closers support is 2x hours away. I hate it. She hates the carrier and now the pram and is now only sleeping 2/3 hours. She’s also a CMPA baby so breastfed and I’m dairy & soy free so dinners have to be thought threw. Throw in 2x dogs and I’m exhausted. I find myself wishing her baby stage away to grow up and will never have another
I'm a solo parent, without a village. My daughter's dad probably sees her weekly, but doesn't help (if anything just gets in the way), my family I see each of my parents maybe every couple of weeks, maybe once a month for a couple of hours, Ive moved to a new area with no friends, my 24hour day is just being a cow and a butler. HOWEVER - this isn't my first child, and with my others I had so much help and support, and I PROMISE that lonely and helpless feeling still happens, that feeling of HOW am I supposed to manage this, still happens. It's so normal, but you still get up everyday and be a mum x
@Indy I love this perspective thank you. I’d never let it show in the way I am with her, it’s just those quiet moments you know!
I’m also a solo parent without a village. I knew it would be like this so I think that helps. Get out and meet people as much as you can - I try to have at least one plan every day. I know it sounds a bit cliche but practice gratitude, I am genuinely so so grateful for her every day. Do some adult things you can do for you but with baby. Find a postnatal exercise class or gym that will let you take baby (some big ones have crèches if you can afford it, if not look for smaller women only gyms as they often just let you bring baby along). Baby cinema is also good. Create a village. keep in touch with people (including child free friends). Organise things. Be honest about your situation. Maybe consider one day/morning/afternoon a week in nursery or with a childminder/babysitter, feel no guilt if it will ultimately enable you to be a better parent (remember loads of people have a parter/family taking a share of the load).
Sorry to hear , if anyone needs a chat can message me. You're not alone , there are plenty of good people around . Stay positive ❤️
No advice but I'm in the same boat. None of my family live in the UK and I often feel very alone and like I can't do anything for me.