No village

Oyyy that is SO so hard. I’m sorry. Just 2 under 2 is constantly demanding, let alone trying to do it yourself. I don’t think I have much advice, but just know this feels hard because it absolutely is. We weren’t meant to raise families this way but this is what our culture has become. I’ve never had close family around either, but working at least daycare gives me a needed reprieve from kids. Have you looked in your area for MOPS groups?? Or any like baby and me yoga classes or music classes or story time at the library?? I would just keep trying to find things like that in your community and see if you can find other moms in the same position. I’ve met several moms with babies at our local coffee shop. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there! Sometimes that doesn’t make it easier but at least adds laughter (and sometimes wine) when you can do things in a group at least.

I feel you on this. Its been extremely rough for me too. My mental health has definitely taken a hit. For me I just like to stay busy and get out of the house as much as possible. Go to a park or library or something nearby. I also look for deals (the children museum near us lets you in free if you have EBT). Especially good when you cant afford anything else.

I only have one child and my husband is home every day and I still get exhausted. You’re a warrior! My mental health has declined like crazy especially since starting birth control. However, I’ve been home alone with my daughter for a week at a time before when my husband leaves on work trips and it’s hard doing everything on your own. But when it comes to having multiple kids, I’ve heard a lot about indoor playgrounds where you can just sit back and watch them play. They get out all their energy and you get to relax for a bit. Plus, it’s safer than an outdoor playground imo. Communicating with other moms on this app has also helped me.🩷

I think it's rare to have a "village" try looking for a mops group near by or something similar. I don't live close to family for the first time in my life and my church is my family

Villages are rare these days because western civ is so f’d up in thinking. That doesn’t mean there aren’t women out there who don’t have villages though and like me, sometimes I need to acknowledge that some women do so I can feel sorry for myself - and that’s ok! Because, it’s really really hard. One kid and my husband comes home every night. I don’t know how you are doing it but I’m proud of you because that is NO joke. Try making mom friends. Is there a “Bunny Hive” baby/mama class type thing near you? They’re popping up everywhere. Helped me a lot!!