Loneliness

I don't have many friends because unfortunately I've made a lot of bad friendships over the years. Had to end one that lasted 18 years. Hate to sound like a Debbie Downer but I'd rather feel lonely sometimes than put up with another one's bulls**t 🙂♥️💙💙👍

I feel ya. I also think that non parent friends don't understand how lonely things can be. My best friends has plans every weekend with other people and then occasionally she doesn't have plans and we're texting and she declares she will have some self care days finally so I don't feel I can ask her to hang. She wants to do things on weekday evenings with me but that's all about my baby bedtime then I don't last much longer cos I'm always tired. I'm also sad no one in my friendship group seems to initiate weekend plans unless it's months in advance. But maybe this is part of getting older What I've found has helped is meeting new mums in my area and getting that weekday daytime interactions. There's one mum near me who I can text for a last minute walk and I joined a craft group with other new mums. I know some places do weekly/monthly mum coffee meet ups i might start going to too. Still miss my friends but this makes a world of difference!

@Kat that's why I've joined the app to try and make mum friends but I find when I think I have a connection with another mum, I just don't hear from them again or one mum arranged to meet up but cancelled an hour beforehand over her new car not arriving so yeah i try but this app doesn't do anything for me. The mum who cancelled on me then messaged me the following day asking what my plans were and she mentioned that she was at the beach with her mum friends so that was a bit shitty. In all honesty I'm struggling alot. I've never felt this isolated and lonely. Even at home, I feel this way with my husband too. Genuinely just had enough 😪 I feel you too lovely. It's so frustrating as the months in advance plan thing is actually true. I'm really glad you've got mum friends though, that's amazing 💖

@Susan I completely understand your point, much rather feel lonely instead of non genuine connections. I'm so sorry that you've not had much luck with friends. Be open minded as not everyone falls into that category 🤗💖

Sorry it has taken me a while to see your reply. Truth be told I'm not using this app often as i haven't had much luck with it so but i pop back every now and then to give it another go. I'm back again! Yeah it is just one mum friend really and her friends craft group that I've only made it to twice still. I think my little girl likes to go back to sleep quite soon after breakfast abd she has her longest nap in the morning so it's hard to get out the house until the afternoon but am these groups tend to be morning time. I definitely still feel lonely and it hits me hard regularly tbh. That's really shitty that the mum who cancelled on you then wrote to tell you about her beach day. Sounds very insensitive. Either that, or she's also lonely but trying to project another image. Did you have any luck on the app or getting out to groups yet? Have you tried to address the issue of fairness with your partner btw?

@Kat I'm with you regarding the app, I'm barely on here now too. please don't apologise My lo sounds similar to yours regarding naps but atm they're still really inconsistent during the day, and he loves to be up more now. I've noticed most groups are super early like 9/10am so it's difficult. I'm glad you've been trying to make it to your mum's friends craft group but I totally understand how hard that's been. I'm really sorry to hear that you are feeling lonely big hugs. tbh i feel the same. Most recently, my childhood friend became really rude all because I called her out about how she was making me feel. Everytime she goes out with others, there's a million and one posts about it, when she sees me there's none. She also forgot my birthday even though I've known her since I was 6, I left it for 3 weeks before mentioning it which was really sad as during that time she was posting for her friends birthdays. I agree that the mum was quite insensitive. She apologised when I made my feelings clear and we met

Up once which was lovely. However my lo has been really struggling with his eczema so I just haven't invested time back into meeting up with people. I did also find a girl I went to school with on here which was great and we are in contact. Apart from that I don't have luck on here tbh as a few ppl I've tried to organise meet ups with have ghosted me and where I've been so focused on my lo, I haven't gone to any groups. I used to go to hartbeeps which he really enjoyed so I feel guilty we've not gone recently. How about you lovely? I did address it with my partner and he's been alot more understanding thank goodness. He even gets up to him during the night now, if it's before 3am even if he has work the next day which has been really helpful. I see you're based in the UK like me @Kat