Relationship

I’ve been single all along, so I haven’t split with anyone, but if you need to be you’ll be absolutely fine on your own! ❤️ However, I think how you are feeling is really really common for couples having just had a baby, remember we are still all so new to this (it sounds like this is also your first baby). It can be hard for partners to feel connected to the baby early on (they don’t have all of the natural hormonal driven bonding that the mum has and at this stage it can feel like the baby doesn’t give much back and baby will often have a preference for mum which won’t help). I’m not defending your partner, it sounds like he could and absolutely should do a lot more, but it sounds like this could be something to try to work through before taking the nuclear option of splitting.

No but I understand and it is very common, sometimes it feels I do everything for our baby unless I nag..and I hate nagging. Does your partner do other things such as house work, dinners etc?

We didn't split up but I had many thoughts about it! We have been together for 8 almost 9 years, married 3 and never really had arguments/conflicts until baby arrived! I felt that my partner wasn't being considerate and supportive enough and a lot of the weight fell onto me. He has been very involved in the care of our baby from day 1 but I just held a lot of anger in me and I just felt that way. At one point I told him things are not working out because he was adding more to my mental load than taking things off. Then we sat down and talked. He reminded me that there are some things that he just doesn't understand (because he's not me, a woman and a mother!), so I need to be upfront and open with him, even with the smallest things. Communication is easier said than done. But if you can sit down with your partner and have an honest, open conversation about how you feel, it might help him realise what you are going through.

@Rachael dinners but that’s it no washing up after or anything just cooks🫶🏻