Meltdown

I have a hard time talking in the moment too because I get so emotional and then I feel like I'm reacting to the other person instead of trying to communicate. It helps me to write it all down as I then have the chance to go over it and edit it as my emotions cool. Sometimes just writing it down helps me work it out on my own and then nothing really needs addressed. If it does need addressed, I've given my husband a letter/email before because 1. My thoughts are more composed. 2. He's not trying to react to everything I'm saying. He can read it, ponder, and then respond in his own way (verbally or a reply back) when he's ready. It takes the heat out of the moment so-to-speak. I'm also a fan of throwing stuffed animals at a wall as hard as I can while listening to rage music. Lol. Depends on the day and the issue at hand.

@Mercedes thank you! I'll try that

I have no advice. I do the same and bottle stuff up and just dip out when it all comes out. It’s a wee bit toxic 😂

@Simone awful isn't it 😂

@Charlotte yea but in my defense I can hold it in for a good while

@Simone guess that's a good thing but not so good when it does eventually make an appearance

@Charlotte oh yeah just held it in for a year and then moved my family in one night just yesterday whoops 😬

Scream in a pillow 👍

Hi I can relate. I do the same. I think it’s important to look at the bigger picture. There’s usually a reason for it. For me personally, I don’t have relationships around me that I feel valued in etc etc the list goes on! But also my own attachment issues and past. I know I need to change bc it’s not sustainable to live like that. I’ve found acceptance of some/worked on the relationships that are worthy/self help etc and all in baby steps bc it’s quite overwhelming. Also counselling is obviously a great option Xx

It really bugs me when certain people just say “you need to talk more” rather than actually look at themselves and wonder why it doesn’t happen. Usually that’s a sign as to why you don’t open up to those people in the first place! X

Letters! Journaling! Venting in your notes app. Putting it down in words outside of your brain can be super helpful. I love letter writing for talking about big things because 1.) I also am an occasional angry crier, especially when I feel unheard. 2.) it gives the other person I’m handing the letter to time to read it & re-read it at their own pace, and there’s something to refer back to if there’s further questions