Leaving your baby

I was only comfortable with my Mom, no one else

@Liz right! If I have my family near me I think I could leave her for a few hours! But not my in laws sorry they didn’t earn my trust!

Just my mom if I really have to.. my husband and I have agreed we enjoy our baby's company just as much as our own and if the need ever rises we'd feel better about it when she's saying full on sentences

@Mayte my husband wants us to go out for my birthday and want his parents to watch our baby since they will be here in town! But I’m not confortable to leave her with them.. I didn’t tell him that I just said no I’m not confortable just leave the baby. I really want to tell him the truth but I don’t know how he gonna take it

Only my parents❤️ not even my husbands mom can watch my son.

Is there truly a reason you don't trust them or you just don't like them? Lol I've told my husband i trust nobody else but my mom.. he took no offense to it he understands she's who raised me.. I think he also gets it because he has a stepmom. His parents always ask to babysit but he always says no it's ok lol you could maybe mention why not have all of you go out for your birthday and they can babysit her infront of you lol idk it's tough I get it

Either way follow your mom instincts they'll never let you down ❤️

@Mayte I think I don’t like the MIL so I don’t trust her!😂 And Agee we all going out together! I’m afraid my in laws will ask me to babysit my baby 🙄

Ahh welp shit happens lol... I'd probably say something like oh no its ok we hardly get to see you guys let's all go out. Don't give in ..it's your baby!

14 months and I have only left with partner and my mother for few hours

@Mayte oh my god! I love that! I will use it! Thank you 😅👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼

@Kate and how did you feel leaving your baby after all?

I’m comfortable leaving my baby with my mom, my MIL, my dad and my cousin law. For any amount of time. My son is 15 months old. I’m really close to all these people and I am confident in all their abilities to care for him.

I feel okay now but it took til about her being 10 months but everyone is different

@Kendra thank you for commenting. Yes, I believe everybody is different and it depends on the level of conformity you have with your family. Is this your first baby?

I kinda judged and went off how they were with my son while I was around. For example when we went to visit my MIL and FIL we arrived and they were so catious and kind. Asking if they could pick the baby up, stepping in to make bottles, asking important questions like oh how does he like to be held? What’s his schedule? How many ounces does he eat? This was all before they ever even baby sat. They showed me they really cared and could care for my son if I was to leave him with them. So I kinda do this with everyone if you show me your responsible then I allow you to watch my son if your just “fun” then nope.

Thanks @Faith for sharing your opinion! That’s right. I just annoyed that my in laws auto invited themselves to come to see my newborn I told my husband no! Until we are comfortable and whenever we want to invite them and NOT whenever they want to ! Now baby is 3 months now they will come soon and I want to be prepared thinking my MIL will ask me that she wants to babysit my baby which i don’t need to think about twice to leave my tiny baby with her. My husband doesn’t understand since he’s a man also is his parents so..

It took me a long time to be comfortable leaving my daughter with anyone, and I had to build up time. At the beginning I could only leave her for an hour before getting anxious and needing to see her. Then when she was older it was more about who she was comfortable staying with. Now at 20months her communication is really coming along and she loves all her grandparents (they all live super close). Normally my mum babysits, she sees her the most, she would probably be fine with my MIL but we've just not had much opportunity and my FIL is disabled so it is a little worrying thinking about leaving her there in case they have an emergency. She loves my stepdad and is getting more and more comfortable with my dad too so could probably be happy enough with them too!

Haha I left with them with brothers, sister, mom and dad, his dad, older cousins… I got over that anxiety real quick lol

If I still had my mom, then yes but my son is almost 3 and we can’t even figure out who we trust to watch him while I birth baby #2 🙃 too scared something will happen

I went back to school when my daughter was 9 months old and she was watched by my mother in law 4 days a week for 4 to 6 hours. I had the ability to go to work when she was 3 months old but I couldn't leave her.

@Trinity also it’s different when you like and trust your MIL

@Ashley I agree about the just because they have raised kids doesn’t mean they can handle a infant or toddler. The person I don’t trust with my child has raised 9 kids.

@Josseline it definitely is and I have a great relationship with my MIL so I knew it would be okay. If I didn't like and/or trust the person I wouldn't let them watch my baby.

@Josseline yes he is my first baby but he was born in ny around my family and then when he was 7 months old we decided to move to Oklahoma to be around his family and now they are the ones who watch him