Feeling guilty

@Ana but how when he’s here and gets to do what he wants? If we spilt he would have to have hima few days and i would be a better mum for having that time so be better without him xx

So, dad is home and not bothering with his children? Or have I misunderstood something? If that's the case though then just get ready and go out when you need to. Just tell him you're going out and he needs to look after his children while you're gone

@Sam no he has decided to go work instead as always I don’t drive so basically no where to go and no money he doesn’t need to go work just prefers it and even when he is home he doesn’t bother

I get his desire to work, I go absolutely crazy if I've not been at work for a while. Especially when I had my son full time. What's not acceptable is not helping out while he's at home. Like others have said, stop doing stuff for him. When you cook don't save anything for him, don't wash his clothes- only yours and little ones. Stop doing anything that makes his life easier. He will soon realise how much you do for him. If after doing all that he still doesn't change then leave him. You're already doing everything yourself and he's just an extra burden and you'd be better off on your own.

@Sam he works all week though 😂

When he’s home he needs to have the children and you need to have some of your own time you need to have a conversation with him if all else fails when he gets home just be ready to leave and tell him your going out for abit and just walk out the door he’ll soon appreciate everything you do … as for money if your the stay at home mum does he not give you anything so you can some sort of financing to do anything I’d have a sit down … probably be in one ear and out the other but it’s at least worth a try …. ? X I work from home but when my partner and son are home (holidays) I’d much sometimes on occasion rather be working in the office so I can get work done I still love them both too bits tho x