Disappointed by health visit

Anyone else feel really alone in terms of medical help since birth? I’m a first time mum and I was discharged from hospital within 24 hours of my c-section. I feel completely left to my own devices and as helpful as my husband is we are both learning everything from scratch together. We’re due to be discharged from the community midwife team tomorrow and to the health visitor team which is giving me grave anxiety as the hv who came round was not very helpful at all compared to how helpful the midwives have been. Feeling quite lost in what to do wish there was more support for first time mums who don’t have family or grandparents around for support :(

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If you are struggling, midwives can keep you longer, depending on when you gave birth. My midwife is keeping me until at least 4 weeks due to me struggling with PPA and birth trauma and needing the extra support. It’s worth an ask if you’re still in the first couple of weeks

My midwife asked me continuously if I was ready to be discharged from their service. Like, it made me uncomfortable with how obvious she was at wanting me off her schedule. My HV is useless too and I’ve been told that if I have any questions to contact the midwife service line. Google and this app have been my best friend as my husband and I navigate being new parents, and even then it’s a juggle sometimes because threads here can go unanswered and Google turns up nothing of use

I feel what your going through. I’m 11 days post c-section and got discharged from midlife’s when he was 7 days old. I feel like we have just been thrown aside considering the trauma I went through and how hard I’m finding everything

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@Sinead completely agree. I feel like I haven’t even had a fair shot of recovering from major surgery as it’s just non stop with a new born :(

@Sarah yeah totally agree this app has been so helpful! I felt the HV was just trying to tick boxes and find fault rather than be helpful!

@Mairi I’ll definitely ask as I’m only 11 days in so hopefully they can keep me a bit longer !

@Incognito I’m still in agony and think my scar has become infected but don’t even know who to contact. Also think I’m getting ptsd from the trauma and struggling to connect with baby. Only help I have is my mum and he’s an ivf baby with priviate donor

To top it off he never sleeps 🙃

@Sinead so sorry to hear that :( I have a GP appointment tomorrow to discuss my BP and also my wound so it might be useful to book a GP appointment to try and see if they can be helpful in anyway. Congrats on your little bundle of joy and I’m sure with time you will perfectly connect!

@Incognito yeah I will give them a ring Monday as there not open weekends in my area. Hopefully you get sorted too ☺️

I felt exactly the same first time round! Just had baby number 2 and I asked straight away if they could keep me under midwifery care until my baby is 28 days (I think after then they have to discharge you) x

I have seen my midwife 4+ times in the past two weeks and one hv too. I was discharged at 2.5 weeks pp, I felt my support was good - if not a bit much. They saw me every 2-3 days nearly. I'm csection too - I have no trauma, I enjoyed my delivery. My little girl took a while to get back up to birth weight

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