Touched out

I would suggest therapy to find out why is that and fix it ❤️

I have days like this when my son is very clingy. Then my poor partner gets the shitty stick at the end of the day when I just don't want to even have his hand on my leg. I breastfed for 20mths and was even worse during that time. Do you do majority of childcare?

Yeh me too, I never want my husband to hug/kiss me anymore and it's not just the odd day here or there its almost constant. I've never been much of a buggy person but not it's 10 x worse

I also breastfed and thought once I stop I might start feeling more normal but I haven't for a year now and I still don't want him to touch me and it feels like such a chore when I do let him which it shouldn't feel like that. I just want to feel normal again haha

Do you have much time to reconnect? Dates, evenings alone etc? I found having a baby definitely took some of that away and it only came back to me after around a year I was happy to cuddle etc.

We are all on a spectrum of our sensory needs. Some people need a lot of physical touch. Others, like me (and you it sounds like) can get quite overwhelmed by a lot of physical touch. I am and have always been this way, from not liking labels in my clothes as a child or crumbs in my bed etc. You may just be more sensitive to sensory input. There is nothing wrong with you. You do not need therapy 🤣 - just to accept yourself and find ways to reduce your sensory input to give yourself a break. Having a toddler who climbs on you and likes to be carried can wear down our batteries. Small adjustments like if you are carrying your child and it is hurting you or moving them if they are making you uncomfortable, or stopping them jumping on you etc will stop your batteries draining so quickly. I have had to switch to all natural clothes and no heels, no jewellery, cut my hair short, only comfy bags and clothes to reduce my sensory input… I even went in a sensory deprivation tank 🤣

P.S. Trying to explain how I feel to my husband has helped him understand, and know it’s not because I don’t love him, it’s just that my body needs a break. It’s not forever too, they won’t want to jump on us and be carried when they are a bit bigger, and I know I’ll miss it 🤣❤️ Good luck, from another touched out mama x