Hi everyone, I’m thinking to just have one child

As a mum of 2, don’t have another baby unless YOU want another! It’s easy for people to weigh in with their opinions, but they aren’t the ones that have to go through pregnancy, labour, post partum and then commit to the financial, physical and emotional responsibilities of raising that child. And for me, the perception that my child might get lonely wouldn’t be reason enough to have another child! Plenty of people grow up without siblings and have very happy, fulfilling childhoods. I’d encourage you to think of all of the many positives from only having one child, instead of listening to what other people have to say about it ☺️

Feeling the same. Love love love being a mum but I’ve struggled massively with ppd anxiety and rage and I feel like I’m really failing with it. I can’t imagine feeling down like this again. I also can’t imagine focusing and giving my love to another baby bc she’s my literal best friend

I plan on only having the one! This was before I even got pregnant though. I was an only child for 15 years and was absolutely fine. Never felt lonely and had friends like siblings. My husband was 1 of 3 and just wants to spoil our one little girl. You gotta do what's right for you and your little family!!

Yes I'm a one and done mama! Happy with my little blessing 💙

There's no way in hell I am going through this baby thing again, and I think I have been blessed with a generally easy baby (as easy as they can ever be!). I seriously underestimated how mentally challenging the whole thing would be. Mine has an older half-sister so I feel the pressure is off somewhat but I also know many perfectly happy only children. I take my hat off to mum's of more than one, and single parents.

I have always wanted two children. I knew 5 weeks pp that I wanted another child even after the horrible birth I had with my first. 🙃 The second time my birth couldn’t have went any better. Don’t let anyone change your mind.

As a solo mum I’ll be having just one unless I met someone but even then I’d think long and hard about more. Even though in the past like most I envisioned lots of children. It’s selfish to overstretch myself for my LO because I want her to have everything I could offer her and be able to have me at my best (not tired because other kids are taking away from what I can give her). I get the whole ‘it’s great they have others to play with’ but I see so many friends or others with multiple kids. And one is many times left out or things are missed where they’re struggling in school or something isn’t being addressed because another of the children’s needs is being addressed more. Having come from a family like that also. I’m a big believer in only has as many as you know you can seriously dedicate all the time each child needs, financially, emotionally, physically. Solo children can be very resilient and not always fall short not having syblings.

On exactly the same page right now! Everyone says you will change your mind but dont let them pressure you. I think i will feel mum guilt either way. By having only 1 i worry he will be lonely but by having 2 i feel i will split my time and attention and especially in the early baby days so then not fair on the older one! Also as an IVF pregnancy and lucky to have spare in the freezer everyone is saying we should use them or its a waste!

I totally understand one and done . Yet it’s lovely to have siblings as a life long friend. So it’s worth considering another