I cannot be alone

Baby's not here yet and honestly I feel like I'm never going to get to the bottom of everything. I've got family coming over to do the house cleaning and I still can't seem to get on top of it. However, your wellbeing is really important. Carve out some time for you, amd try not to feel guilty. Children need a healthy mummy that's the most important thing 💜

I find the mental load of being a mum a bit soul destroying. I work from home so I think my husband has the expectation that I will have time to do cleaning and washing throughout the day, make sure dinner is cooked and take care of our little girl. Sometimes I can barely stop long enough for a wee or get a drink, let alone keeping the house up together. I then have to make sure she has everything she needs, do a food shop, pick her up from nursery, cook dinner etc etc. I just get “if you want me to help in the house, you can cut the grass and do the DIY”….grass gets cut every couple of weeks, and DIY is non existent in this house 🙄 not the same thing really! I think that mummy cape, needs to be a superhero cape for us all!!

Trust me. There’s always something needs to be done and to get it done all in just 24 hours still ain’t enough. I wish for more time tbh. Plus, as we’re in the summer time hour, remember we lose an hour. So that doesn’t help too. Just try your best to get as much done when you can. 🙂

@Laura Haha swap with him for 2 weeks, he will soon change his mindset 🙈

Honestly I could have written this right now. Between full time work and my son who’s been literally attached to me and following me around crying for the past three weeks I feel exhausted and need a break.

Omg girl, no you are totally not alone. My house used to be immaculate pre baby, I was ultra productive, ultra organized, extremely fit & now that I have a baby, I am a COMPLETE mess lol I have zero help from family and my man doesn’t do one thing to help me around the house besides pay the bills. I’m a SAHM & I can’t even keep up. I am completely exhausted from taking care of my toddler 😅 I’m behind on studies and can’t exercise regularly. We moved into a new place 6 months ago and I still haven’t finished unpacking. Mom life is rough no matter what.

There really aren’t enough hours in the day. Luckily my husband has shouldered anything house related while I heal from my C-section. My baby is Velcro at the moment so I don’t get to do much of anything if I’m not wearing her and in this current heat there’s no chance I’m putting her in the sling. As much as we are coping with having her here we’ve also called in the big guns this weekend and my in-laws are staying the weekend to help us catch up with the house, laundry, and baby’s care while I get some rest (my incision is infected and I need to catch up on some sleep) and while dad gets everything done that he needs to do.

Your right there always something which needs to be done try your best to be organised I.e do housework before going to work . So when you get home you can chill . Also have a routine with your kid . We do 8 pm - 8 am quiet wind down time. I think the majority of your social life will be around your kid unfortunately. Try and make other mum friends so you can do kids stuff and socialise at the same time . Reach out for help when needed if you have a family who can help

Cuz there’s not !.. we have to sleep and all that so by default we have to subtract at least 8-9 hours from the 24 hours in a day .

Have your cry girl. Chores can wait, your mental health is more important

I find it exhausting just thinking about it and the never ending to do list. There's definitely not enough hours in the day!