Anyone finding motherhood really lonely?
My baby is just over a month old and I’ve been on maternity leave for almost 3 months (had to leave work early because of really bad pgp and I work in care) and before my son arrived I was fine but these last 4 weeks I’ve really struggled with feeling alone.. my partner is by my side and so are both of our families, they all live really close by and I see my mum and sister weekly but I’m really struggling with still feeling alone. I’ve got friends but they all have kids who are about 9/10 years old and work and obviously don’t have all the time I have to meet up at the moment, and my friends who don’t have kids live far away as I know them from when I was at uni so I can’t see them often. So although I’m not physically alone and do have friends I still feel emotionally very lonely. Is this normal or do I possibly have postnatal depression? 😭
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I found pregnancy and post partum very lonely, I have a 6 month old. I also have postnatal depression and anxiety, I don’t have any family near me and I’m not close with my boyfriends family are they live fairly close. My friends do come round once a month but only one has a child and she is busy working etc. If you can I would suggest try get out the house to go to some baby groups, I started going to some and just that hour and a half of interacting with other mums and talking about baby stuff and struggles really helped me out.
Its very normal to feel like this the first few months, its a massive transition and hormonal change, i promise it will get better soon.
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I felt the same & sometimes still do - my family & friends live over an hr away from me as well which really compounded how lonely I felt. I think it’s totally normally given everything we go through as FTMs but also as our hormones are changing so much too. I didn’t feel it was consuming or paralysing enough to be PND but we’re all different so definitely talk to your GP or HV if you’re worried - they’re there to support you. I pushed myself to go to some baby groups with my little boy to help get me around people who were local and in a similar place as I am at the moment and found these have really helped to ground me, get me into a routine where I have slots I know I’ll be speaking to/interacting with other mums and stops me feeling alone xx