Scared of losing myself
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I can’t lie, I don’t know who I am outside of being a mum. Like my whole life atm is just being a mum. I have struggled leaving my toddler because of PPA so that has meant I struggle to go out and do things for myself because I always have her there. One thing I’d say is try and take the help when it’s offered so you can go and do things you like, even if it’s just getting your nails done or going for a coffee etc because that’s one thing I’ve never done and now i don’t even know what my hobbies are or what I like or don’t like. I only know what my toddler does or doesn’t like 🤦🏻♀️ ofc this doesn’t happen to everyone so I hope I’ve not put you off at all but if you’re aware beforehand you can kinda put things in place to ensure you still have your you time etc
I think it’s ok to loose yourself in the whirlwind of being a new mum for a little while. Just make sure you re-evaluate your priorities once you get a bit more time/ sleep again I think. In the first time after birth it’s really important to accept help to catch up on sleep/ eat well/ do some gentle exercise/ get outside and have some quality time with partner/ other kids/ family/ friends I think 🤗
I like @Eva's Outlook. The next chapter is going to look alot different than the last few but that's completely OK. Your not losing yourself just growing into a new role that will probably take over for a little while but it's not forever. Grab those opportunities to spend time on yourself, with friends, your partner and to make new mum friends when they come up. x
Try not to worry. I’ve been feeling this way for quite a while now. I think it’s the fear of the unknown. We owe it to ourselves to be more than just “mum”. Sending you lots of love ❤️