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@Jessica me and my husband had talked about me getting my other tube removed after we had our son but now idk if I should make such a permanent decision. Ugh 🤯
@Geneva Oh wow, yes that is definitely a permanent decision! There are options! What about your husband even getting a vasectomy? Since they can be reversed. Of course it’s something worth researching and asking others their experiences with such a procedure. An IUD could also be put in place temporarily while y’all make the ultimate decision on what to do. Is your husband not open to having anymore children or anything? If you don’t mind my asking that is!
My boyfriend wanted me to get my tubes tied after our daughter being born. I just can’t commit to that. I don’t like things being set in stone just because you never know 🤷🏼♀️ plus, I’ve heard so many bad side effects etc. So he finally agreed to a vasectomy because he’s the one that wants to be done so that’s how it should be 🤣 I’m just always a “what if” thinker. I wouldn’t make any permanent decisions with you being unsure. Because the feeling of regret will be so strong and always wondering what if.
@Jessica with our first miscarriage it was ectopic so we didn’t really have an attachment. With the loss of our daughter it broke him. In my 6 years of knowing him I had never seen him so defeated. And also he works two jobs now to do his part in bills and things and he just says he don’t want to stress about money. I’m just thinking maybe once we start our careers maybe we wouldn’t want to start over with a baby or maybe we will get comfortable and see that it wouldn’t be such a terrible idea to try once more.
@Tiffanie I’m a “what if-er” too lol. Selfishly he is 100% opposed to getting the vasectomy so it’s up to me at the end of the day. With my PCOS and being slightly overweight it’s not easy getting pregnant in the first place so 🤷🏽♀️ I’m just thinking maybe something temporary that will give me a few more years to figure out what I really want
I’m pregnant with our fourth child. This pregnancy I just know I am done. My last pregnancy was twins and I always said I might have one more. I wasn’t sure but I wasn’t 100 percent convinced that I was done. It was a feeling for me.
I’m not at that point yet, so to be honest, I’m probably not the *best* to comment… but I will say, you said here that you’re unsure. To me, that sounds like you’re not done but just scared to be hurt again, which is of course such a valid fear. School will always be there. You can even do it at your own pace if you want to. You still have time to build that beautiful life you’ve always envisioned.