Lost myself..

Just to add because I don’t think it was clear- I’m separated(not entirely by choice)

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way! I finally am feeling like I found myself again after being a single mom for 6 months. Doing things like being in nature, hanging out with friends, watching comedies and laughing a lot. Even doing things with my toddler that are not 100% kid focused but she enjoys like having dance parties in our kitchen every night to music I like (but still kid appropriate/no bad words). For me it just took time & is getting better by the day. What’s working for me is remembering the things I used to like before having kids or being married and try to make time for them. One of mine was going for drinks and dinners with friends so am trying to do that once week and it’s really helping me feel like the old me again. I got so used to just working part-time and looking after my daughter. I’m asking for help more, like Grandma to watch her once a week once she goes to sleep so I can go out. Sounds like you’re on the right track. Hang in there, time will help!

Also, I’m thinking about trying some new hobbies that I always wanted to do such as Ariel yoga or kickboxing classes. Maybe it’s not just about finding the ‘old you’ but embracing the ‘new you’. It can be scary and lonely after separating but after a while I have adjusted and am so much happier blending things I loved to do in my old life/pre-baby and trying new things out too ❣️