Is it just me..

I feel the exact same way as you love so I’m glad there’s others who feel this way. I’ve been a single parent from the get go but I can’t ever imagine myself having kids or being with someone other then him x

I feel exactly the same too. I'm trying to find a way to remind myself that me and my kids are a family unit, we are just different. I got photos done of me and the kids together to put up in our home, that kind of helps xx

Yeah, I like the idea of being in love again but at the same time I don’t see how it could happen and also I’m not actually interested in meeting anyone, talking to a man? No thanks I feel like there’s so much more at stake now too, my daughter comes first and I cant see myself ever trusting anyone fully

I feel very much the same. I’m expecting a boy and I’m single. I very much see my future without more children (as this little one was unexpected and I was told I couldn’t have kids). But I also feel very pessimistic about finding a partner that I feel I would accept to be around my child. The person that contributed to this pregnancy has turned out to be a very violent and unstable individual. I don’t think I’ll be able to trust anyone again, maybe enough to date one day, but certainly not to join my little family. Safety and emotional wellbeing is so so important and I don’t know I’d meet anyone that could contribute to that and not take away from it. I recognise it could be very lonely and at some point I may crave romance, but I’m excited to start my life with my son.

I feel the same too.

Yeh I feel the same and it makes me happy not sad. X

i felt the exact same way till i met someone, i really expected it to just be me and my son forever as i was too scared to let anyone in his life. I think the reason that changed was genuinely because i wasnt looking for anything and accepted the fact it was just me and him

@katie this is very sweet. I hope you don’t mind me asking but how did you know it was right to let this person into your life, and your little one’s life. I’m worried I’m never going to be comfortable enough to make that call.

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I can totally relate to this, it's just me and my son and have been solo from the start, dad not interested. And I have had really bad betrayals/trust issues. I can't see myself entering into another relationship and also experiencing possible infertility issues now that are being investigated so a second child is less likely. I also can't see myself feeling comfortable with another man being around my son. It's just a strange feeling all of it.

This used to be me . I went therapy to deal with my feelings ( mainly anger ) & a lot of things that went on . I wasn’t looking for anyone & then he came along & now I can’t imagine without . He’s such a brilliant bonus father x

@Chloe don’t get me wrong I have been seeing people but I just don’t see me being with that person long term, like I don’t see myself moving in with anyone or getting married or having more kids

Perfectly normal too! I think I’m considering myself 1 & done for kids tbh . I’m not sure if the relationship is going to be long term but I’ve accepted it if it isn’t too . I’m willing either way it falls x

I feel exactly the same to 😒😒xx

Same, but what worries me is I have no family apart from a not very maternal mother that lives hours away. So I am literally my daughter’s only family. It worries me for her

It’s hard to not be pessimistic especially when you don’t have support

I feel this… my girls just over 3 now & I’ve seriously lost all hope of finding anyone or having another child, not that I’m desperate to have another, I’m not sure I would for fear of splitting with that person too & then even if they do stick around for the next child, my first born might feel left out & like she’s not enough.. the joys of mum over thinking! But now I’m kind of at peace with the idea of it just being me and her, we’re gonna be best friends for life. I don’t need a man, tbh I think we’re best off without cos dating in this day & age you realise how immature & sexually driven blokes are.. it gets lonely sometimes, specially without family support. But you get through it. The bad days still come but I just make plans with my daughter & friends if they’re free.

@Emma I feel this. I get so worried my daughter might resent that she doesn’t have certain family members or they’re absent. The guilt is horrible.

@Sian see I don’t have no friends or family support. I struggle with feeling lonely &then that’s when I get these thoughts. I am trynna accept that it could be just us forever but then I also think that I could have had a proper family if I would have just waited to have a baby or if I chose to not have my son.

It’s easier said than done but try to build your own support system. I’m so thankful for the couple of friends I do have from school days, I literally have 3 friends tops! One of whom I met on this app, & tho we don’t see eachother often it’s so nice to have someone to talk to about things, she’s also a single mum so it’s nice to have someone to relate to aswell. I understand your thoughts & feelings when you get lonely, I have those moments too & sometimes the feelings of guilt and loneliness are almost unbearable but then you think of your little one. Try not to think in the way of if you waited or didn’t have your son, he’s a blessing & things happen for a reason, you needed eachother & it happened. We can’t dwell on things or ifs of the past. My inbox is always open if you want to drop me a message. It’s hard out there, us mums & women got to stick together x