How to tell friend struggling with fertility

Hey! Congratulations! This is tricky and you shouldn’t feel bad about having “an easy ride”. Your journey is just different. I was definitely the friend who was struggling while everyone around me fell pregnant and I felt like the best way to deliver the news was via message. It seems impersonal but it will give your friend time to process her feelings without taking anything away from your exciting news. I think telling someone in person when there is an “expected” reaction is unfair on you and them because their feelings will be complicated. I am sure she will be so so happy and excited for you but also disappointed for herself and the two will exist in the same space for a while. Good luck but I am sure it will go well xx

Iv been in a similar situation and always told them seperately so they can have their feelings. Nothing worse than announcing in a group and they will feel pressure to look and act just happy. They will likely have lots of feelings around this. Being happy for you will likely be up there but there could be other things they just need to work through or get through head round

I had the same issue A friend of mine has had 4 miscarriages And then I fell pregnant I was just honest and upfront with her. Told her in a private way so she could express her emotions She's very happy for me but is struggling, so we aren't in a lot of contact atm. we both reach out every month to check in with each other. I just told her I'm here for her still to talk too cry, shout whatever she needs from me.xx

Feel like you've definitely got enough good advice here, but I was that friend and it was so hard hearing this news and a text us much better cos she can react however she needs without feeling bad. Give her time to process it, maybe don't text at the time she might be at work or our at the weekend. No scan photos, no baby chat, just let her feel her feelings and remember it's not about you ❤️ she will be happy for you but it hurts and there's not really anything you can do other than ve sensitive and kind. I had all sorts from baby scan texts blind siding me, to being told in front of people and not being able to react so she will appreciate you thinking of her x

Thank you for all the advice this is brilliant help 🩷🖤

Tell her by message. Then she can cry/react in any way she wants without having to hold it together or pretend to be immediately thrilled for you. She will eventually be happy for you but sometimes people need privacy and time to deal with their own emotions about their own struggles without being face to face and then feeling guilty they may have reacted badly in front of you. Also personal message would be nice to let them know you realised your happy news might bring up unhappy feelings for her and you wanted to let her know separately so she wasn’t ambushed with a group setting xx