Is it just me ?

Sometimes I feel so useless, like I’m not doing anything being a SAHM but really I’m taking care of this whole life which is everything in itself. But the fact that I’m not doing a ‘job’ that’s bringing in money, and I can contribute to bills just makes me feel I’m not really doing anything. It’s not a nice feeling 😟 My plan was to go back to work this year, we are 6 months into 2024 and still nothing, I’m hopeful though, just feeling low.

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I’m the very same.. I just moved here and lost my job in the process. So I’m trying my hand at this stay at home life, but I’m really struggling. I know no one in this city, my husband is very busy at work, i am having a hard time finding time to look for jobs and even if I did, we have no childcare to take care of the baby.. I feel that what I do all day (cleaning, cooking, admin chores) gets so unappreciated and I feel so, so very lonely. So.. just know you’re not alone 😉

I felt that for a long time! ESP because all my friends who are moms also work. Made me wonder if I was making the wrong choice. As my kiddo gets older and is in the throw of 2’s I’m seeing the benefits of being at home with her and lots of consistency in limits and routine. Basically I’m just noticing the benefits of being able to stay at home which has helped me feel less useless! I hope you’re able to notice some of the benefits too. My husband once told me that I basically make $1100-$1200 staying home each month because that’s what I’m saving us on childcare 😂 and actually that really helped too.

@Cam thank you 🥰

@Cam it really does get lonely. i hope it gets better for you ❤️

@Sarah 🇺🇸 the thing is my son is in nursery 3 times a week, he started at 18 months, I just couldn’t hack it any longer 😖

@Katie i’m definitely thankful for all this time I get with my son, and he is in nursery 3 times a week

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I think it’s a big shift being at home, for me it’s hard in a lot of ways but I wanted to be the one taking care of my kids I made and nurturing them. I still struggled with going from getting the validation of a paycheck and checking in with a boss. But for me I have shifted my focus to who I really am and what inherently defines me that won’t change from having a job to not having a job. But with respect to contributing to the family I really feel like I am helping at least for our circumstances because of the cost of child care and how much healthier our family is since we cook and eat at home, I’m in charge of the food and cooking except one night a week which means I can save us money by not wasting food and doing a good job with the grocery shopping. Anyways, this is how I feel I contribute to the family, I’m investing in our kids and helping bring down overall costs. Hope you can find some positive things like this for you 🤍

I feel the same way every day. You’re not alone

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