Feel like I’ve lost myself and who I am

Since having my little one I really feel like I’ve lost myself. I feel like all I have to ever talk about is being a Mum and all I feel like I am is a Mum. I don’t feel very much like a wife, a friend, a sister a daughter etch. When we are out and baby is asleep I feel it even more so. I feel fidgety and I don’t know what to do. If I’m with my husband’s family and little one is napping I feel so uncomfortable and awkward. I love being a Mum absolutely adore it, I just feel like I’m boring and quiet now when I’m with other people. And don’t really know who I am outside being a Mum. Please tell me I’m not alone with feeling like this?

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I’m completely with you in this feeling. It’s why I’ve decided to start going to the gym with one of my friends a couple times a week if only for an hour. So my baby is staying with my nan whilst we have some time. I also have taken up a couple new hobbies. I’ve started to really get into plants and gardening, we got some new pet fish a couple months ago and I read books on my phone or kindle during our contact naps. It got to the point at home where I was cleaning, feeding, getting the baby to sleep, cleaning, feeding, sleeping in an endless cycle and I thought I was going insane. It does get better xx

I totally get this. This is my second baby. But I remember just being so completely focused on my daughter I found it so hard to even hold a conversation. I really struggled to make new mum friends. If we did start chatting it was about babies and never about ourselves so never really went anywhere with getting to know them. My daughter is now a toddler and I have my little boy now so i just don't get time to think or do the things I enjoy. I feel no one is bothering to invite me out because either it has to be somewhere child friendly or I have to arrange it around others to baby sit. I've tried to reconnect with my hobbies and interests. I get an hour in the garden in the evening as it is still light outside until 10pm. The neighbours probably think I'm mad and my husband thinks I'm avoiding him. I've been trying to find a yoga class that I like but not found one and I'm going to try to do some KIT days at work to reconnect with work and hopefully clear abit of this brain fog.

I feel the complete same I just wish I knew how to get out of it x

Completely relate with this feeling. All I talk about is my baby, my 3 year old or the weather! I do nothing else xx

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