Father’s Day

Wait till your son is old enough to ask to get him something … we did it for a while with my husbands ex (mother of his first child) but never got anything back so now we wait till the child asks to do it and then we will buy a small something. By the time they go to school / nursery they tend to make cards for those occasions anyway x

I've a friend in the same situation. She now only does a "handmade" card so it's inexpensive and the dad has something sentimental. Friend on mother's days, birthdays ect for herself makes the same things with her children for herself as a little activity they all do together so she also has something sentimental x

Why is it important for you? I guess depending on your view on it you'll know what to do or not do. Take care. Sending you lots of love ❤️

I’d just do a card only until it’s something your son wants to do x

If it was me I’d want to be able to tell my child, when they are old enough to understand, that I had done everything I could to maintain a relationship between my child and their father, but also a healthy co parenting relationship from my side for my child. A small card and token gift that doesn’t cost the world is just that, but a photograph of your son excited to gift them to his dad before he leaves you, is more than enough to keep your side of the bargain. When old enough, your son will understand that wasn’t reciprocated for you sadly - ultimately you are providing for your son what he currently isn’t able to do himself. Well done mama, it’s not easy and it sounds like you’re smashing that situation!

@@Jenthank you so much x u really helped x

Personally, I’d take my feelings out of it. Simply because it isn’t about you in this situation even though it’s your money, it’s about your child. Unfortunately some people aren’t good with things like that. My other half is horrid at expressing emotion when gifts are brought for him - even if they are from our child lol. It’s sad he doesn’t offer you the same thing, no it’s not to receive but the idea is lovely. It’s about being the bigger person for the sake of your child.